She’d been healing her whole life. As she approached her 60’s, she finally found the missing piece.

I want to tell you about Gina.

Not because her story is dramatic in the way some stories are — no midnight crisis, no divorce papers on the table, no relationship teetering on the edge of collapse.

Gina’s story is quieter than that. And in some ways, because of that, it’s the most powerful one I’ve ever had the privilege of telling.

Because Gina didn’t come to me to save her relationship.

She came to save herself.

And she has been doing exactly that — with breathtaking tenacity — every single day ever since.

A Lifetime of Healing

Gina is approximately 60+ years young. She is a library professional by vocation, and one of the most relentlessly, beautifully self-aware human beings I have ever had the honor of knowing.

She is also a survivor. Of childhood abuse — sexual, emotional, physical — that would have broken many people permanently. Instead it set her on a healing path that has lasted decades and shown absolutely no signs of stopping.

By the time Gina found me, she had already done more inner work than most people do in three lifetimes.

She had done years of therapy. DBT. EMDR. Somatic interventions. Vagal tone work through mindfulness, meditation, prayer, yoga, and supplements. She had read Opening Up, Polysecure, and countless other resources. She had attended online forums. She had prayed. She had breathed. She had shown up — over and over and over again — for her own healing.

She wrote on her intake form: “I easily invest in myself because I realize my ideal relationships and emotional and mental health are priceless.”

That’s not a person who stumbled into this work. That’s a person who has been building toward it her entire life.

And when I asked her on a scale of one to her favorite superhero how awesome she was?

She said: “Jack Jack and Edna Mode Awesome.”

For those who need the reference — Jack Jack is the baby in The Incredibles with literally unlimited, still-emerging superpowers. And Edna Mode is the tiny, fierce, no-nonsense genius who makes everyone around her better and tolerates absolutely zero nonsense.

Gina said she was BOTH. Simultaneously.

Reader, she was not wrong. 😄💛

The Life She Had Built — and the Pieces She Was Still Carrying

Here’s what Gina’s life looked like when she came to me in August of 2022:

A long marriage to Marcus — a kind, thoughtful, genuinely extraordinary man who loved her completely and was fully, lovingly on board with who she was.

A deep, two-decade friendship with Sarah — who had been woven into the fabric of Gina’s family for as long as anyone could remember. Gina had been there when Sarah’s children were born. They were, in every meaningful sense, a chosen family.

What the world didn’t fully know — what Gina had only recently begun to speak out loud to her most trusted inner circle — was that Sarah was also her lover. Had been for about ten years. And that Gina, a woman who had spent decades quietly knowing something about herself that she couldn’t yet fully name, had finally found the word that fit:

Bisexual.

She loves deeply, and in more than one direction, and in more than one way. She may not claim every label that exists for that kind of love. She doesn’t have to. She gets to define herself on her own terms — which, not coincidentally, is the entire foundation of everything we do together at Loving Without Boundaries.

But despite the beauty of what she had built, Gina was still carrying something.

Jealousy. Fear. Self-worth struggles that had their roots in ground she had been tending for decades.

She wrote: “Safe, secure, loving relationships with deep connection, intimacy, kindness and respect.”

That was her dream. Simple. Profound. Completely achievable — with the right tools.

She had the will. She had the work ethic. She had the self-awareness.

What she needed was the missing piece.

Finding the Missing Piece

Gina found my book Jealousy Survival Guide and read it in a week. Then she booked a call. Then she signed up for the program.

And then — because she is Gina, because she is Jack Jack AND Edna Mode — she showed up completely. Every week. For everything.

She didn’t just do the front-end program. She joined the ongoing Momentum program too. And then she stayed. Month after month. Year after year.

As I write this, Gina has been working with me since August of 2022. She is STILL in the program today.

Not because she’s stuck. Because she’s a dog with a bone about her own growth — and she knows a good thing when she finds it. 😄