Mind over medicine

Why Your TOTAL Health Matters, Polycule Hospital Visits, Authenticity, and “Mind Over Medicine” by Lissa Rankin

Cheers Sexy People! Wow what a ride (and I’m still on it I’m afraid!) I am writing you from the other side of an alarming medical scare that rocked my world, my polycule, and my “best-laid-plans“ schedule! In our polyamorous community, we often talk about the “what-if’s”, such as “what if you are in the…

Live-In Trial Run Experiment Week Update – “V” Poly Configuration

Cheers Sexy People! In my last post, I mentioned that within my own polycule, we had a trial run week of my boyfriend living with my husband and I full-time as practice for the potential real thing. A member of the Loving Without Boundaries community was kind enough to reach out and ask if I would elaborate…

Why NOT “Come Out”? and An Announcement!

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I wrote a post where I mentioned that I went to my first gay wedding for a close friend of mine, yet I have not “come out” to him yet as polyamorous. I also expressed some sadness that polyamory is not more accepted in today’s society. Thus I feel that…

Can Mono / Poly Relationships Work Without Pain?

Cheers Sexy Peeps! A comment just came in from a recent popular blog post of mine Why Do Polyamorous People Get Married? The comment is filled with pain and the commenter is seeking answers. I was about to write a reply in the comment section, but realized that the best way to serve this hurting individual…

Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I contemplated how rules, boundaries and negotiations work in polyamorous relationships, and pondered how we find common ground and figure out how to better understand each other while still honoring our own needs and desires at the same time. Once again, this can be challenging in a monogamous relationship, but…

Can Polyamory Save A Relationship (and Other Conundrums)?

Cheers Sexy People! How do we stay true to ourselves while staying true to our loved ones? How HONEST about who we are do we want to be, even to ourselves? When do we start to build resentment for hiding our true nature, stuffing our feelings down or denying ourselves pleasure? How often do we…

“Coming Out” As Polyamorous: Part Deux

Cheers Sexy People! I am writing this blog post as a follow up to an earlier one, to continue my story on “coming out” to our family and friends about being polyamorous. The last post, I spoke about what lead up to the decision to “come out” including the reasons that we finally decided to…

non monogamy, polyamorous relationship

Couples In Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy

Cheers Sexy People! So… Monogamous or Non-monogamous? That is the question. I eventually answered that question (once I realized I had a safe ethical choice) as quite firmly: non-monogamous, as did my husband and we came to that decision together at the same time (OK, maybe I nudged first after reading Ethical Slut and feeling…