Happy Pride Month, beautiful people. 🌈 💜!
I want to talk to you today — not as a coach, not as someone with letters after their name, but as a person who has spent over two decades loving outside the lines and building a life around helping others do the same.
Because this month is personal for me.
The Overlap Nobody Talks About
Here’s something I know from nearly 10,000 hours of coaching: the ENM and polyamory community and the LGBTQ+ community are not entirely separate worlds. They are often deeply, beautifully intertwined.
So many people in this community discovered their queerness and their capacity for ethical non-monogamy at the same time — two parts of the same awakening to who they actually are. For many, the question “am I polyamorous?” came right alongside “am I bisexual?” or “am I queer?” They are different questions with the same radical answer: I am allowed to be exactly who I am.
That is what Pride is about. Not just a parade. Not just a flag. The fundamental, hard-won, still-being-fought-for right to love honestly and live authentically.
And that fight? It’s ours too.
This Year Feels Different
I’ll be honest with you. This June feels weightier than some.
Rights are being stripped away. Visibility is being punished. People who have been out for decades are quietly re-evaluating what it costs to live loudly in a world that is not always safe for them right now.
And I watch my clients — brave, remarkable people who chose honesty when hiding would have been easier — carrying an extra weight this year. Not just the personal work of navigating ENM and polyamory. But the societal weight of doing it while the world debates whether their love is valid.
I want to say clearly: it is. It always has been.
Pride Started as a Riot
Let’s not forget that.
Pride didn’t start as a celebration. It started as a group of people — many of them transgender women of color — who were told their love was wrong, their existence was shameful, their lives were less than. And they decided: No. We will not disappear.
That energy — defiant, joyful, unapologetically alive — is something I see in my clients every single day.
People who chose honesty when hiding would have been easier. People who built chosen families when their families of origin couldn’t hold them. People who are doing the deep, difficult, extraordinary work of being exactly who they are in relationships that were never designed to look cookie-cutter.
Being polyamorous in 2026 is an act of resistance. Not because you’re trying to be rebellious. But because you refuse to disappear or hide.
What This Community Does That the World Needs
Here’s what I’ve witnessed in over two decades in this space:
People in ENM and polyamorous relationships practice things that the rest of the world struggles to do at all. Radical honesty. Explicit communication. Revisiting and renegotiating agreements as people grow. Holding space for a partner’s joy even when it challenges you. Building chosen families with intentionality and care.
These are not fringe skills. These are the skills that make all human relationships better.
Pride Month is a reminder that the people doing this work — the LGBTQ+ community, the polyamorous community, the ENM community, the people who love in ways the world doesn’t always recognize — are not the problem.
They are, in many ways, leading the way.
To the Person Reading This Who Is Hiding
If you are here and you are not out — not fully, not safely — I see you with extraordinary love as well as empathy. I’m not going to tell you what you should do with your visibility. Safety matters. Context matters. You are the expert on your own life.
What I will say is this: you are not alone. There is a community here. You don’t have to figure this out by yourself.
And the work of becoming who you are — truly, fully, without apology — is available to you whenever you are ready for it.
To the Person Who Is Out and Exhausted
If you have been out and proud and fighting for years and you are tired — that is not weakness. That is what sustained resistance looks like from the inside.
You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to let other people hold the banner for a while. You are allowed to celebrate quietly, or loudly, or however feels true to you this year.
What you have built, by living authentically, is more powerful than you know.
What I’m Celebrating This Month
Twenty-plus years of a marriage that we built ourselves — one honest conversation at a time. A community of nearly 400 clients who chose the harder, truer path. A podcast with hundreds of episodes because there were people who needed to hear that their love was valid and their struggle was real. A mission and business built entirely on the belief that people deserve to love honestly.
And every single person in this community — every person who has ever DM’d me at 2am, or booked a breakthrough call trembling through fear, or left a review that said “I finally don’t feel alone” — every one of you is part of what I’m celebrating.
You are the reason this work matters.
One Thing I Want You to Carry Into This Month
Being exactly who you are — how you love, who you love, how many you love — is not a problem to be solved.
It is a life to be lived.
Happy Pride. 🌈💜
Kitty
