Podcast Interview: The Pageist – Podcaster, Writer, Sex Educator, Kinkster, Book Reviewer, Polyamorist

Cheers Sexy People!

I am delighted to share my latest podcast interview with the lovely Paige La Marchand of the The Pageist podcast. I was fortunate enough to have made Paige’s acquaintance thanks to Dan – co-creator of the Beyond The Love conference. Dan was kind enough to alert me to her podcast when I was promoting the release of my book, Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship. Paige invited me to create a show with her for her podcast, so we recorded Episode 65 together over a year ago now. I was so incredibly grateful for the opportunity at that time as a first-time author struggling to make my mark as well as help my fellow polyamorous folks in the community.

I would love to share Paige’s book review: “Kitty Chambliss’ Jealousy Survival Guide is a slim volume, packed with information and worksheets useful for dealing with any toxic emotions (not only jealousy) that could threaten a person’s wellbeing—in or out of polyamorous relationships. Her expertise as a relationship and life coach is apparent—there is much wisdom contained in these pages. Wisdom and practicable knowledge. This is already a go-to resource I recommend to my listeners and anyone looking for advice on how to take control of the emotions that threaten their happiness.” Please make sure to enjoy her prolific writing on her website! Paige, I am just delighted to know you, to create magical podcast shows together on each of our respective podcasts, and am grateful for your tireless work reading and reviewing so many wonderful books — all in a compassionate effort to help your fellow consensual non-monogamous community. I’m full of gratitude for unique and wonderful you — the world is a better place with you in it! 

Here is Paige’s bio:

The Kinky Bits

I’m Paige and I’ve been a pageist since long before I had the words to describe what that was. I’ve written about it in some depth.

For a fun set of writing prompts, you can check out my answers to the 30 Days of Kink Blog Challenge. Some are more difficult to answer than you’d think. Give it a shot–you may learn some things about yourself. I certainly did.

More information about my kink journey is available through answers to submissive journal prompts or check the essays index for brief info on essays and other writing on the site.

The shortest bio I can give is that I’m an asexual lesbian, service-oriented submissive who’s married to her best friend (an asexual cisdude) who’s looking for a Domme. I’m looking, my husband isn’t.

This is an essay about what being asexual and kinky is like for me.

Here is an essay about how power exchange, kink and sex align (or don’t) most naturally for me.

My Eroticon 2017 Virtual Introduction post includes some non-typical questions and answers.

I also answer questions on Quora (index of those here), which  often includes kinky or personal information.

The Vanilla Bits

Besides being utterly enamoured of Dominant women, I’ve also been a writer (professionally and for fun) for many years, and a reader of many types of books.

• Tea over coffee usually, but I have to have decaf either way (stomach ailment).

• Cats or dogs or any animals (including reptiles).

• I’m originally from the American South but now live in England and I love it (though it’s a little cold.)

• Professor McGonagall is my fav HP character in books or film, though I’m Slytherin, and I have a robe that looks just like hers from the first two movies thanks to a costume-designer friend.

• Unabashedly an introvert and nocturnal individual.

• Some of my favourite words to say: Schadenfreude, numpty, frabjous. And the phrase quelle suprise.

• Office supply stores make me happy.

Some topics we discuss in this fun, informative, and fascinating interview:

— Why she once featured the quote “One person’s perversion is another person’s normality” on her website.
— How and why she’s married to her best friend, who happens to be a man, yet she self-identifies as an asexual lesbian.
— Paige discusses her lightbulb moment of when she knew she was unique and different from other folks in her youth.
— Why she considers herself one of those “obnoxious” couples that never fight, and how they are quite affectionate cuddlers.
— Paige vulnerably shares that she has mental health issues, and that she is therefore “human” having normal human concerns vs. the idea that you one has to be “perfect” to be polyamorous.
— How she feels compersion in her relationships.
— Why she is in search of a female dominant.
— How one of her favorite polyamorous books is “Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory” by Page Turner who was interviewed on the LWB podcast here on Episode 96.
— Her advice for the newly polyamorous: Use the guides and books from the people who have gone before you to learn from their mistakes and what they already learned. It saves oodles of time. Do your research!

Thank you Paige, for being so awesomely generous with your time; for sharing your wonderful podcast and book review skills with us all; and for sharing your wisdom and insights with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, engaging, and so fun! Follow her work and adventures at her website at www.ThePageist.com and on Twitter @ThePageist, and other social media venues.

If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!

EXCLUSIVE CONTENT OFFER – We continue to have some exciting goings on here at Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). We now have exclusive content for you via the LWB podcast and my Patreon page for those who choose to become a patron. Please visit the link to check out how you can come join the party over at Patreon! Want to hear more from our amazing interviewees? You got it! Want to dig deeper into the community and your fellow poly folk? Right on, let’s do it! Want free relationship coaching? It’s all there! Come join us, and enjoy exclusive content made just for you, our patrons of this work!

NOTE: Soon I will be offering a monthly group “hangout” and coaching calls for all of our podcast patrons at any level. If you are supporting the podcast, I am supporting you on your journey. Come join us and meet like-minded folks on the same journey you are!

UPCOMING POLYAMOROUS-FRIENDLY EVENTS

1) Free LWB Facebook Group for Healthy, Sex Positive, Open Relationships — Ready to explore healthy, deeply connected (and virtually jealousy-free) open relationships? It’s all possible – especially when surrounded by a community of people already doing it. Many in newly open relationships experience roller coaster emotions of jealousy, insecurity, and feel alone on their journey. That’s why I created this free Facebook group where people are coming together to share actionable tips for succeeding in multiple loving relationships, explore deeper love, and find mutual understanding and support. There’s an abundance of rock star information posted in the group daily by our amazing members. We create a safe place to engage that’s fun and thrilling! Click here and request to join our free group!

2) Southwest Love Fest (SWLF), Tucson, Arizona, March 29–31, 2019 — “The Southwest Love Fest is a weekend conference on consensual non-monogamy held annually in Tucson, AZ with opportunities to learn, share and connect with other like-minded people. We had a hugely successful 1st year in 2018 and plan to make it even better for 2019! Taking what we learned this past year, 2019 is set to be even more radical, thought-provoking, and transformational. SWLF is an open space to find community and learn from others’ diverse relationship experiences.” NOTE: I will be there presenting my “Jealousy Survival Guide” workshop at SWLF 2019! Come join us at this fun polyamorous conference!

3) National Sex Educator Conference (NSEC), Newark, New Jersey, April 5, 2019 — The Center for Sex Education (CSE) has been hosting an annual Sex Ed Conference since 1985. What started as a one-day conference for New Jersey health educators has grown into the largest conference in the United States that is exclusively devoted to sexuality education. Participants attend from across the nation and many other parts of the world to network and learn best practices in sexuality education, addressing a spectrum of topics, audiences, and ages. NOTE: I will be presenting at the 7:30am Friday Round Table discussions on: “Polyamory In Practice: Understanding Consensual Non-monogamy.”

4) Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit (SFS), Alexandria, Virginia, August 15–18, 2019 —The Sexual Freedom Summit features human rights activists, sexuality educators and researchers, professionals from the legal and medical fields, authors, sexual freedom movement leaders and organizational partners all working toward the time when sexual freedom is fully recognized as a fundamental human right. This Summit is for EVERYONE interested in learning about the issues in the realm of sexual freedom, advancing their current knowledge and in gaining the tools to actually create the change we need to accomplish. I hope to see you there!

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Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)

Kitty

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