Who is that man, Smithers?
Hi…I’m Kevin. I am a polyamorously married educator living in the Philadelphia area. I’ve been with my wife since Jan 2002, ethically nonmongamous since Aug 2002, married since Feb 2007, and poly-identified since 2013.
Why did you create this blog?
At a local meetup, a friend referred to my wife and I as role models because we were still encountering and actively working through new issues despite our long experience in ethical nonmonogamy. I thought it would be beneficial to shine a spotlight on working, successful polyamorous people/relationships without leaving out the imperfections that make us all works-in-progress.
What are you hoping to accomplish?
I’m hoping to profile individuals, couples, triads, quads, networks, polycules, etc. that, while flawed, are still practicing successful polyamory. First, to show others, who are interested in polyamory, that there are lots of people making it work. Second, to exhibit that polyamorists aren’t perfect or magical or free from struggle…just willing to get better and for themselves, their partners, and their communities. Third, to reveal the customizable nature of polyamory by displaying a variety of working configurations.
Why is (that one person) a role model?
I try to let that spell itself out. Every entry means something different to each reader. The basic premise is “flawed people making polyamory work”. Each contributor adds as much information as they feel is relevant to their experiences in polyamory. The role model bit comes in when you see your own situation reflected back at you.
There are profiles that have resonated *highly* with some users that don’t speak to me personally. Meanwhile, there are other profiles whose experiences, mistakes and relationship structure offer me new perspective on my own. So, in a way…each role model is only a role model to those who need that role modeled. If that makes any sense.