Cheers Sexy People!
Oh my goodness, this podcast episode is such a hoot! I have another amazing guest interview for you guys that will knock your socks off! I am thrilled to share my latest podcast interview, Part One and Part Two, that I recorded with the hilarious, wicked smart, and stupendously awesome Ruby B Johnson. Mrs. Johnson is a sex therapist and educator in private practice in Plano, Texas. This rock star is a speaker, writer, and therapist who has several publications and interviews in many media outlets. She is the founder, creator, and brain behind PolyDallas Millennium, a symposium that is “birthed” every summer in the heart of Texas. I was fortunate enough to be a co-panelist with Ruby at the recent four-part series called Chicago Coup/3Goals created by Emily Dahlquist this past March. I felt a little nervous co-paneling with someone that I had never met in person before. So lucky for me, I decided to do a little detective work and attended PolyLiving in Philadelphia this past February so that I could meet Ruby face to face. Wow was that a smart decision! Her “Isms” workshop was not only lively and spirited (as we discuss in this interview), but chock-full of powerful information, insights, and “aha” moments as we worked through race, gender, and cultural difference issues. As a CIS-gendered white female, I learned a TON! I am proud, delighted, and thrilled to call Ruby not only a wonderful colleague of mine, but dare I say it, a great friend. Ruby, you rock my world, fo shizzle! I am honored to know you and am just tickled pink to continue to get to know witty, highly intelligent yet gentle you. I think I love you! But in our poly world, I hear that is A-OK. You rock!
Some topics we discuss in this entertaining and thought provoking interview:
— Why she identifies as polyamorous, but is not practicing consistently.
— When she first learned about the word and lifestyle choice of “polyamory”
— We discuss our thoughts on jealousy and how many folks struggle with this human emotion — even “thought leaders” and polyamorous educators!
— How she is in an interracial, culturally diverse relationship where they is also an age gap – she even shares an engaging story around this.
— How social justice coincides with love and a voice of empathy in her life, and why that is important.
— How the “-isms” are in many of our relationships and can be polarizing and unsettling.
— The many ways that jealousy can manifest in the way of privilege (by being jealous of someone else’s privilege).
— Why one of her goals is to talk about the “stuff that no-one wants to talk about.”
— Why being a “conference junkie” can be so valuable and what the intention behind that is.
— The concept that information and knowledge does not come from a book – it comes from getting out into the world and interacting with one another, such as at conferences, learning from others live and in-person while seeking connection!
— We discuss nuggets of wisdom from Brené Brown’s latest book, “Braving The Wilderness.” Brené! This is an official shoutout to you to please come speak at an upcoming PolyDallas Millennium as well as on our very own Loving Without Boundaries podcast! Yes! 🙂 We would be honored!
Thank you Ruby, for being so awesomely generous with your time, for spearheading the PolyDallas Millennium symposium, and for sharing your wisdom and insights with us via the podcast interview Part One and Part Two! It was enlightening, flipping hysterical at times, and so fun! Follow Ruby’s work at her website at www.inamorata.me, email her at firstname.lastname@example.org and also on Twitter @polydallas.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and check out Episodes 85 and 86 with Ruby. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the Loving Without Boundaries podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
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1) PolyDallas Millennium (Dallas, Texas), July 13–15, 2018 – PolyDallas Millennium is a symposium about consensual and ethical non-monogamy. This symposium provides a sex-positive safe space for those seeking knowledge about ethical non-monogamy, who have questions about ethical non-monogamy, or are experienced with ethical non-monogamy.
2) Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit (SFS) (Alexandria, Virginia), August 2–5, 2018 – The Sexual Freedom Summit features human rights activists, sexuality educators and researchers, professionals from the legal and medical fields, authors, sexual freedom movement leaders and organizational partners all working toward the time when sexual freedom is fully recognized as a fundamental human right. This Summit is for EVERYONE interested in learning about the issues in the realm of sexual freedom, advancing their current knowledge and in gaining the tools to actually create the change we need to accomplish. I already have my ticket! I hope to see you there!
3) Endless Poly Summer (West Virginia), August 17–22, 2018 – Endless Poly Summer has an eclectic yet integrated approach to creating an environment that allows each person to thrive. They bring in top-notch presenters who share a wide range of tools, techniques, and insights for dealing with all aspects of relationships, sexuality, and self-integration. The result is that the participants have a huge pool of technologies and practices to draw from. Each person is fully “at choice” in any of the events, and each person is free to use the insights and practices that work best for them. Not just another superficial meet-and-greet, Endless Poly Summer is 6 days long so that there is time for real connections to be made, and real interactions to flow from these connections. Campers help each other to work through issues that may arise, using new tools and techniques where appropriate, with the guidance of our experienced support team. NOTE: I will be giving two workshops at this year’s Endless Poly Summer on Saturday and Sunday! Come join us!
See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)