Podcast Interview: Wendy B on Asexuality – Solo Polyamorist and Writer

Cheers Sexy People!

I’m excited to announce the next podcast interview that just went live! Wendy B is a wonderful friend of Loving Without Boundaries and myself who often gives me great insights in what she would like to hear more of on the podcast for the community to learn from. Today’s topic is ASEXUALITY. As she did in regards to being a solo polyamorist, she reached out to me via email to say that she felt asexuals are not represented well in the poly community. She also expressed that there is much misunderstanding, and feelings of being judged that asexuals feel in our society. Also as this part of our community so often misunderstood, many loved ones in an asexuals’ inner circle may take things personally due their the lack of understanding and education about what a person’s experience is like living an asexual existence. Wendy graciously volunteered yet again to be a proud and powerful voice here to share her own experiences and observations on the topic to help create more understanding, awareness and tolerance for this often forgotten community. She felt strongly that there is not enough discussion about those identifying at moments in their lives as asexual – meaning a person who is experiencing no sexual feelings or desires.

Being that I am very sex-positive, a self-proclaimed passionately sexual person with two active partners, I personally can’t speak from an asexual’s perspective. Wendy spoke so passionately, I invited her to be on my podcast again so that she can “represent” and speak her mind to the community. Well you go, girl! Thanks for putting your money where your mouth is and being brave enough to share an interview with all of us! You rock!

Here are some of her other thoughts that she shared with me in her initial email:

“A lot of the asexuals that I know experience angst, guilt, and shame over their sexuality because they buy the idea that something is wrong with them for not being interested in sexual relationships. I just think that we live in a society where people are shamed for not wanting sex as much as they’re shamed for wanting sex, and I have felt the shame and that something is wrong with me in non-kink and kink settings because of where my sexuality fits in with other people. Also, suffering from trauma and needing to recover from issues surrounding it is much different than being on the ACE spectrum.

This is a pretty good general description of the ACE spectrum: http://cupcakearrow.tumblr.com/acearothings. It’s just another way of saying that asexuality is nuanced and that people experience asexuality differently.

I’m technically on the asexuality scale because I’m demisexual, and I definitely wouldn’t want someone to try to “cure” me for needing emotional relationships before I feel sexual desire for someone.”

Awesome stuff! Thank you, Wendy for being generous with your time and for sharing your thoughts and insights with us via the podcast interview! Thank you for reaching out to me and letting me know your thoughts on the need for those who identify as asexual to be represented better in the community. I want many voices to be heard so that we can all learn from different perspectives. You rock, Wendy! Follow her adventures on FetLife @SparkleMadness.

To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and check out Episode 51 with Wendy B. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for ethical non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the Loving Without Boundaries podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.

If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!

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