Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community!
I am absolutely delighted and thrilled to share my latest podcast interview with Lola Phoenix, author “The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy”, “The Non-Monogamy Journal” and “Supporting Someone Polyamorous: FAQs About Non-Monogamy and Allyship for Family, Friends and Loved Ones”, and host of the “Non-Monogamy Help” podcast. What an incredible and inspiring conversation we had from this amazing human being who is clearly on a roll in creating tons of valuable resources for our wider consensually non-monogamous (CNM) community. When I think back to when I discovered polyamory back in 2007 or so and how little resources we all had back then, and what is available now, it is like night and day. I’m thrilled at the true ABUNDANCE of literature and concrete books, podcasts, and very specific information that can be found today (such as centering those struggling with anxiety). Lola has been a prolific contributor to that abundance, I am delighted to report. Lola, wow, have you been busy! I have so much gratitude for the breadth and depth of the work that you have been putting out there at such a young age. Imagine where you will be a decade or two from now, and the impact you will have made. Keep going! I’m rooting for your success and continued engagement with our CNM community.
Here is their Bio:
Lola Phoenix is an American born writer living in Sweden, working within digital marketing while trying to find an agent to represent their fiction work. Lola is the author of “The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy”, “The Non-Monogamy Journal” and “Supporting Someone Polyamorous” as well as a weekly advice column and podcast called Non-Monogamy Help. Lola is also an amateur Strongman athlete and has a special interest in fitness and nutrition science. When not writing books, Lola is either at the gym, talking walks in nature, learning about sciencey stuff or baking new treats.
Some topics we discuss in this highly interesting, informative, and thought-provoking interview:
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How Lola’s first romantic relationship being long-distance and non-traditional planted early seeds of questioning monogamy norms.
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Early experiences with sexual abuse and anxiety motivated her to learn deeply about sexuality to overcome fear and stigma.
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How their career path shifted from casual sex-positive engagement in college to becoming a recognized author and podcaster.
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The gap in resources for people with mental health struggles engaging in non-monogamy.
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Releasing three major works, each targeting distinct yet overlapping audiences within the non-monogamy space.
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Valuable insights about bisexuality, demisexuality, and sapiosexuality to demystify these identities.
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Discussed major emotional challenges in polyamory, notably reconciling different definitions of partnership and managing conflict healthily.
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Tune in to listen to this fantastic podcast episode!
Thank you, Lola, for being so wonderfully generous with your time, and for sharing your work and life with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, interesting, and so fun! You can learn more about Lola on their TikTok, Instagram and YouTube.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then check out Episode 277 with Lola Phoenix. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the LWB podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
ANNOUNCEMENT — GUEST PODCAST APPEARANCES
I recently have had the honor of being featured on these awesome podcasts:
Open Window Institute Podcast with Jesse Dean, released February 10, 2025, where we discuss struggling with debilitating stress and anxiety on my journey to emotional freedom fulfilling my mission.
The Sensitivity Doctor Podcast by Dr. Amelia Kelley, Episode 109 where we discuss healing codependency.
Indie Author Weekly Podcast, Episode 112 in which I talk about writing my book, “Jealousy Survival Guide.”
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast, Episode 179 as I share my story with them.
Poly Weekly Podcast, Episode 540 in which I talk about my insights on jealousy and my book, “Jealousy Survival Guide.”
Multiamory Podcast by Dedeker Winston, Episode 140 where I talk about the lessons I’ve learned as a polyamorous person who struggles with jealousy.
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LWB Local Washington DC Metro Area Meetup
– If you’re local or happen to be visiting the DC metro area, come join us for a fun and engaging social gathering at 7:45 pm ET on Wednesday, November 12, 2025, at Murphy’s Grand Irish Pub (713 King Street, Alexandria, VA 22314). Location subject to change.
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See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty Chambliss, Master Certified Coach (MCC), CPC, TIC
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