Cheers Sexy People!
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! As always, I am sending good energy and vibes of hope and love to our amazing community. I believe that sharing inspirational stories of hope, inclusion, and healthy lifestyles are more important than ever. If you are looking for ways to connect with loved ones you may be separated from, check out this blog post for resources and ideas. On to another inspiring story…
I am delighted to share my latest podcast interview with Jennifer and Gordon, one of our amazing success stories here at Loving Without Boundaries coaching. When they first reached out to me, they were definitely “in a pickle”. Gordon was in a space of dealing with painful pangs of jealousy, insecurity, and “not-enoughness” as they continued on their – often exciting – consensually non-monogamous path together. Some of those feelings and thought patterns were a leftover “hangover” from some traumatic events that happened in past relationships when he was cheated on. I get it! I bet alot of folks reading this can also relate. Many of us don’t have a smooth, easy path to practicing consensual non-monogamy in a healthy way right out of the gate. It’s normal to need to navigate challenging emotions – especially if there has been past infidelity to heal from. It’s like poking at an injury that may not be fully healed. Jennifer wanted to be supportive of her husband that she loved dearly, yet she just didn’t know how. It was a tough spot to be in.
What I am so over the moon about is how Jennifer and Gordon showed up to do this transformational and life-changing coaching work in our step-by-step solution. After some trepidation needed to be overcome about investing in themselves, and “Will This Work For Us” fears, Gordon courageously said a “Hell Yes” on their collective behalf to getting the help from a coach who truly cares. They dove in, they got to work, and “did all the things”, and they saw immediate shifts literally in the first few weeks. Gordon got this confidence back, and had faith that he now had the tools to succeed, while Jennifer also saw amazing shifts as well. They also made lifelong friends along the way, and even had FUN on our journey together! Hard work doesn’t necessarily have to be all grueling and painful. Together, we learn more quickly – add in a dash of playfulness, and we anchor those learnings so much more.
Jennifer shared with us: “I came to see just how much time and effort has been put into this, and continues to be. This isn’t a coaching program about just living outside the boundaries of heteronormative relationships. This is about how to live YOUR best life. The skills we’ve learned, I use in every relationship I have, not just with my husband. I am so grateful for all we have achieved. Each module, each call, each time we practice what we’ve learned, is SO VALUABLE! The growth we’ve both made during this has allowed us to start having fun and meaningful encounters with like-minded people. The most beautiful part of it is that now, each time we have an encounter with someone in the non-monogamy setting, we realize how much we are grateful and just DELIGHTED to be enjoying life with each other. We really are the yin to each other’s yang. Take the chance. Do the work. You won’t regret it.”
WOW! Jennifer and Gordon, I will forever remember you as a Power Couple with heart, who said “yes” to yourselves living your most authentic lives, and “yes” to me and the team for having your best interests at heart. We love you, we honor your hard work, and we celebrate your success!
Here is their Bio:
Gordon and Jennifer – who have both been in marriages that failed due to infidelity on each of their partner’s part – met and have enjoyed a great relationship together, having lived in a monogamous marriage for 20 years. After reading some kinky books, searching other fun sexual activities, and their growing ever closer and curious about their own fantasies, Gordon and Jenn stepped out into the world to explore making some of these sexual fantasies a reality. Two years ago, starting with a threesome, after adventuring out to a sex club – because that experience was so fun and exciting – Gordon began seeing the excitement and motivation Jenn was having towards this new world. Yet pangs of some of the old feelings of his past marriage and the infidelity, that caused so much difficulty, came rushing back in. This is the reason that brought Gordon and Jennifer to the “Jealousy Survival Guide” (Loving Without Boundaries) coaching program.
Some topics we discuss in this highly interesting, informative, and entertaining interview:
- The impact of that infidelity from previous marriages had on their current relationship.
- The decision to consider open relating after 20 years of monogamous marriage.
- Overcomingfear and jealousy during this transition.
- How listening to each other’s experiences and being open and honest has strengthened their belief in their relationship.
- The importance of finding like-minded people who understand their journey.
- Tune in to listen to this fantastic podcast episode!
Thank you, Gordon and Jennifer, for being so wonderfully generous with your time, and for sharing your work and life with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, interesting, and so fun!
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then check out Episode 231 with Gordon and Jennifer. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the LWB podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
I recently have had the honor of being featured on these awesome podcasts:
40+ Gay Men Gay Talk Podcast by Rick Clemons, Episode 193 where I talk about throuples and polyamory.
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast, Episode 179 as I share my story with them.
Indie Author Weekly Podcast, Episode 112 in which I talk about writing my book, “The Jealousy Survival Guide.”
The Open Nesters Podcast, Episode 14 and hear me chat with them on jealousy, compersion, and how to handle a deep relationship.
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Where are you on your non-traditional relationship journey? Are you just starting out, feeling alone and confused? Unsure how to navigate this new world?
On Wednesday November 29th at 10:30am ET, I am hosting a FREE Live Masterclass called: “The 5-Step Formula My Clients Use to Create Healthy, Loving, Open Relationships (even if nothing has worked before)” in our Private LWB Facebook group.
This Masterclass will show you how to live your most authentic life free from shame & guilt with tools to liberate you from challenging emotions like jealousy once and for all. And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events… So Join the Facebook group and then reserve your seat for this life-changing event!
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See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty Chambliss, Master Coach, CPC
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