Cheers Sexy People!
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! As always, I am sending good energy and vibes of hope and love to our amazing community. I believe that sharing inspirational stories of hope, inclusion, and healthy lifestyles are more important than ever. If you are looking for ways to connect with loved ones you may be separated from, check out this blog post for resources and ideas. On to another inspiring story…
I am thrilled to share my latest podcast interview that I released with Dr. Amelia Kelley, whom we have been honored to have on the podcast before. We enjoyed a fantastic intro interview on Episode 212 of our Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and I got hooked on speaking to this amazing and fantastic powerhouse of a woman. We have exuberantly agreed to have Dr. Amelia become a regular guest speaker, where we will dive into various topics that we believe our LWB community would truly benefit from. On this episode, we talk all things “gaslighting” – which is an ongoing hot topic in the consensual non-monogamous (CNM) community. Why? Because in ANY relationship, there can be real challenges to moving toward healthy relationship dynamics, and CNM is no exception. In fact, due to any past trauma (where unhealthy, toxic dynamics may then seem “familiar”) and possibly more tolerance is evident (from engaging in multiple relationships at one time), it can be easy to slip unintentionally into toxic patterns, that include manipulation, victim mindset, and, you guessed it, “gaslighting” as a potential vicious cycle. What’s so great is you can break free from it!
What I know to be true: Knowledge is power, yet self-knowledge is self-empowerment. Inform yourself by listening to this amazing episode.
Thank you so much, as always, Dr. Amelia Kelley, for your intellect, your grace, your compassion, and ALL of the amazing ways you add beauty, intelligence, and empowerment to this world. I so appreciate you and your hard work, Smarty Pants!
Here is Her Bio:
Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist and meditation and Yoga teacher. She is a presenter and writer in the science-help field and public speaker focusing on healthy relationships, Highly Sensitive Persons, trauma, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She is a trainer for the SAS Work/Life Program in Cary, NC, and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. Her newest book, “What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship”, was just released January 10th of this year.
Some topics we discuss in this highly interesting, informative, and entertaining interview:
- Ways to empower oneself include educating oneself on gaslighting, processing with a safe person, establishing boundaries, fortifying oneself, and keeping records of experiences.
- Being accountable and open to learning from criticism.
- How to respond to accusations or criticism.
- The importance of recognizing gaslighting and empowering oneself.
- How gaslighting can be used as a manipulation tactic.
- How one can develop the ability to identify gaslighting quickly through self-awareness and listening to their inner voice.
- Tune in to listen to this fantastic podcast episode!
Thank you, Dr. Kelley, for being so wonderfully generous with your time, and for sharing your work and life with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, interesting, and so fun! You can learn more about Amelia on her website, Instagram, Twitter, Insight Timer, and Facebook. And, I encourage you to read her book.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then check out Episode 226 with Dr. Amelia Kelley. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the LWB podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
I recently have had the honor of being featured on these awesome podcasts:
40+ Gay Men Gay Talk Podcast by Rick Clemons, Episode 193 where I talk about throuples and polyamory.
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast, Episode 179 as I share my story with them.
Indie Author Weekly Podcast, Episode 112 in which I talk about writing my book, “The Jealousy Survival Guide.”
The Open Nesters Podcast, Episode 14 and hear me chat with them on jealousy, compersion, and how to handle a deep relationship.
EXCLUSIVE CONTENT OFFER – We have exclusive content for you via the LWB podcast and my Patreon page. Want to hear more from our amazing interviewees? You got it! Right on, let’s do it! Want monthly “Hangouts” with yours truly and other patrons? Cool! Let’s do it! It’s all there! Come join us, and enjoy exclusive content made just for you, our patrons of this work!
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Free LWB Facebook Group for Healthy, Sex Positive, Open Relationships — Ready to explore healthy, connected (and virtually jealousy-free) open relationships? It’s all possible – especially when surrounded by a community of people already doing it. There’s an abundance of rock star information posted in the group daily by our amazing members. We create a safe place to engage that’s fun and thrilling! Click here and request to join our free group!
UPCOMING POLY-FRIENDLY EVENTS
Where are you on your non-traditional relationship journey? Are you just starting out, feeling alone and confused? Unsure how to navigate this new world?
On Wednesday, September 20th at 10:30 AM ET, I am hosting a FREE Live Masterclass called: The 5-Step Formula My Clients Use to Create Healthy, Loving, Open Relationships (even if nothing has worked before) in our Private LWB Facebook group.
This Masterclass will show you how to live your most authentic life free from shame & guilt with tools to liberate you from challenging emotions like jealousy once and for all. And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events…So Join the Facebook group and then reserve your seat for this life-changing event!
>>> Looking for more events around the globe? Check out Alan’s Polyamory List of Events to stay informed and connected.
See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty Chambliss, Master Coach, CPC
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