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Cheers Sexy People!
Happy Friday, rock stars! I am so excited to share my latest podcast interview that I recently released with kickass relationship coach, Lindsey Ellison whom I met at the National Sex Educator’s Conference in Atlantic City, New Jersey in December of 2017. Lindsey had attended my presentation that I gave for the first time: “Polyamory In Practice: Understanding Consensual Non-Monogamy” at the NSEC17 conference. Lindsey had come up to me right after my talk and was just glowing with joy and wide-eyed excitement from everything I shared in my talk. I was over the moon to see what an impact my presentation had created in the audience. We became fast friends, exchanging business cards, and vowing to meet up for lunch in the coming weeks once we realized we lived in the same neck of the woods in the Washington, DC vicinity. True to our word, we met for lunch, had incredible conversation, and shortly therafter recorded this amazing, highly informative, and riveting podcast interview. I am honored to share all of this information and resources with you, dear listeners.
I am so delighted to share what Lindsey had to say about my presentation at NSEC17:
“I actually thought you had the best presentation in the entire conference — your slides were awesome and flowed nicely. I’m extremely critical of workshop presentations because I study the craft of them for my own business, so I thought you did great! Your topic is, of course, very interesting and I thought you did a great job giving a great introduction to it — it felt normal and very authentic. ” — Lindsey Ellison
Lindsey! Oh my goodness, I am so glad that we met, and got to know each other and our respective work more. I am so grateful that you not only are rocking your life and your business, but that you are making such a huge impact in the world helping create empowered, healthy relationships for others. Way to go!
Some topics we discuss in this lovely, educational, and fascinating interview:
— Lindsey”s 7-8 journey of self-discovery from depression to eventual happiness while navigating a divorce and the aftermath.
— How her writing, podcasting, blogging lead her to becoming a contributor with Huffington Post and eventually to becoming a relationship coach.
— How Lindsey truly believes in really honoring your truth, and how that feels like a “coming out” process.
— The process of discovering that in her first marriage, she was suffering from narcissist abuse.
— Lindsey’s sexual growth from having periods of no desire in all for sex to a sexual awakening.
— How the book “Sex At Dawn” blew her mind and helped changed the trajectory of her life.
— True Confessions: Lindsey reveals how so many aspects of living the “supposed to be” life felt just AWFUL to her. She hated it! We discuss how she broke free from the cookie cutter life, giving herself permission to not live such a “cycled” life.
— The moment when she first discovered the term “narcissism” and how much that blew her mind – including discovering that her father was even on the narcissist spectrum. She describes how we can be in a co-dependent dance with a narcissist, thus you become an enabler of the toxic relationship by allowing that dance to continue. When you are a victim of anything, you have zero control and we give up our power. Boundaries are paramount, and there need to be consequences when someone violates our boundaries. Create a new narrative in your head called “That’s not OK.” Yes, Lindsey!
— How the book “The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us” by Ross Rosenberg was a powerful piece of work that inspired her to create her course “Break Free From Your Narcissist.”
Thank you Lindsey, for being so awesomely generous with your time; for your passion in serving folks who are struggling to break free and find passionate, healthy relationships; and for sharing your wisdom and insights with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, engaging, and so fun! Follow her work and adventures at her website at LindseyEllison.com, on Twitter @startovercoach, and on iTunes @StartOverFindHappiness.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and check out Episode 106 with Lindsey. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the Loving Without Boundaries podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
EXCLUSIVE CONTENT OFFER – We continue to have some exciting goings on here at Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). We now have exclusive content for you via the LWB podcast and my Patreon page for those who choose to become a patron. Please visit the link to check out how you can come join the party over at Patreon! Want to hear more from our amazing interviewees? You got it! Want to dig deeper into the community and your fellow poly folk? Right on, let’s do it! Want free relationship coaching? It’s all there! Come join us, and enjoy exclusive content made just for you, our patrons of this work!
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UPCOMING POLYAMOROUS-FRIENDLY EVENTS
1) Free LWB Facebook Group for Healthy, Sex Positive, Open Relationships — Ready to explore healthy, deeply connected (and virtually jealousy-free) open relationships? It’s all possible – especially when surrounded by a community of people already doing it. Many in newly open relationships experience roller coaster emotions of jealousy, insecurity, and feel alone on their journey. That’s why I created this free Facebook group where people are coming together to share actionable tips for succeeding in multiple loving relationships, explore deeper love, and find mutual understanding and support. There’s an abundance of rock star information posted in the group daily by our amazing members. We create a safe place to engage that’s fun and thrilling! Click here and request to join our free group!
2) Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit (SFS), Alexandria, Virginia, August 15–18, 2019 —The Sexual Freedom Summit features human rights activists, sexuality educators and researchers, professionals from the legal and medical fields, authors, sexual freedom movement leaders and organizational partners all working toward the time when sexual freedom is fully recognized as a fundamental human right. This Summit is for EVERYONE interested in learning about the issues in the realm of sexual freedom, advancing their current knowledge and in gaining the tools to actually create the change we need to accomplish. I hope to see you there!
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See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty
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