Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I contemplated how rules, boundaries and negotiations work in polyamorous relationships, and pondered how we find common ground and figure out how to better understand each other while still honoring our own needs and desires at the same time. Once again, this can be challenging in a monogamous relationship, but…

Breaking The Silence on Monogamy – A New Documentary Explores Whether We Are Wired for Fidelity

Cheers Sexy People! Why is the divorce rate so incredibly high? (roughly 50% of married couples in America end in divorce as per www.divorcerate.org) Is monogamy necessary for a healthy relationship in today’s society… or is honesty, to your partner and to yourself possibly just as healthy? Why does infidelity cause so much pain, heartache…

Sleeping With An Ex… Is it Wrong? – Agreements and Boundaries in Poly

Cheers Sexy People! I received a very strong and thought provoking comment on yesterday’s blog post, When Poly Rubber Hits the Bumpy Road. I always most certainly appreciate and welcome feedback on my blog posts, so thank you, dear reader! It’s so great to keep the conversation going and build this community. I thought it…

Polyamory / Honesty and Online Dating – An Oxymoron?

Cheers Sexy People! So, you think you might be polyamorous, and this alternative lifestyle may suit you, but where do you find these elusive potential “poly” mates, considering that not everyone is “out of the closet” or wearing their “freak” flag on a daily basis? In addition, consider that the polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous community…

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Couples In Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy

Cheers Sexy People! So… Monogamous or Non-monogamous? That is the question. I eventually answered that question (once I realized I had a safe ethical choice) as quite firmly: non-monogamous, as did my husband and we came to that decision together at the same time (OK, maybe I nudged first after reading Ethical Slut and feeling…

Walking Out Of The Darkness

Cheers Sexy People! This past Saturday nite, I went to the Out Of The Darkness Walk (sponsored by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention) in support of several of my friends who were walking in memory of those that they had lost through suicide. I was deeply moved by the experience. There were over 2,000…