No, you’re not asking too much. But something in the pattern probably does need to shift — and the shift isn’t “ask for less.” It’s “get some of what you need from somewhere other than your partner’s mouth.” Here’s a moment that’s stayed with me since I first heard it from Ellecia Paine, a non-monogamous…
Here’s the honest answer, not the one that sells better: it doesn’t fully go away. Not at five years in, not at twenty. And I want you to hear that as relief, not a life sentence — because the goal was never to arrive at a place where you never feel jealous again. The goal…
No. And I want to say that clearly, right up front, because I have heard some version of “maybe I’m just not built for this” on more intake calls than I can count. It is never true. Jealousy doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean you picked the wrong relationship structure. And the reflex to…
If you’re staring at the ceiling at 2:45 in the morning, crying, and you can’t even explain why — nothing is wrong with you. This isn’t proof your relationship is broken. It isn’t proof you picked wrong, or that you’re bad at this, or that everyone else figured out something you never will. Sometimes the…
Trust and jealousy are not opposites — you can trust your partner completely and still feel your stomach drop the moment they walk out the door for a date. That spiral isn’t proof the trust is fake, and it isn’t proof something is wrong with you. It’s your nervous system reacting to an old fear…
Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! Do you find yourself struggling with feelings of envy and jealousy when it comes to your relationships? Do you yearn to experience the joy and fulfillment of seeing your partner(s) happy and thriving, even when it involves others? What if I told you that there’s a secret code to unlocking…
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am over the moon excited to share my latest podcast interview with Ally Iseman, founder of Passport2Pleasure, speaker, and community organizer. We became fast friends on our easygoing and awesome interview, finding that we had sooooo much common – especially wanting to support, encourage, educate, and love on…
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am over the moon excited to share my latest podcast interview with Marie Thouin, author of the amazing book, “What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.” I have had the great pleasure of speaking to Marie Thouin multiple times on our podcast, Episode 165 and Episode…
Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! Have you ever struggled with feelings of jealousy or insecurity when your partner experiences joy with someone else? You’re not alone. Many people in polyamorous relationships find it challenging to fully embrace compersion – the feeling of happiness and joy in response to a partner’s pleasure with another partner.I…
Cheers Sexy People! Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! My heart goes out to you during these challenging times. I hope you are doing your best to keep safe. Sharing inspirational stories of hope, inclusion, and healthy lifestyles are more important than ever. If you are looking for ways to connect with loved ones you…