Can Polyamory Save A Relationship (and Other Conundrums)?

Cheers Sexy People! How do we stay true to ourselves while staying true to our loved ones? How HONEST about who we are do we want to be, even to ourselves? When do we start to build resentment for hiding our true nature, stuffing our feelings down or denying ourselves pleasure? How often do we…

My Poly Life with my Poly Husband (Or Live A Life Less Ordinary With Me)

Cheers Sexy People! I hate to be bored. So does my husband. We are both Geminis (the sign of the twins), and my friend described us when we were engaged with: The four of you must swing from the same chandelier. Well said! When we got married, we put the song “Live A Life Less…

Jealousy, Polyamory and What That Has To Do with a Dead Fish?

Cheers Sexy People, Last week, we discovered one of our beautiful koi fish belly up in our pond. My husband and I were immediately saddened and upset trying to determine what killed the lovely creature that we have been tasked with taking care of ever since we inherited our koi pond (it came with the…

“Coming Out” As Polyamorous: Part Deux

Cheers Sexy People! I am writing this blog post as a follow up to an earlier one, to continue my story on “coming out” to our family and friends about being polyamorous. The last post, I spoke about what lead up to the decision to “come out” including the reasons that we finally decided to…

The Practice of Jealousy Management

Cheers Sexy People! Let’s face it: It’s impossible to talk about polyamory / ethical non-monogamy without the topic of jealousy coming up. It’s one of the first questions I got asked by my friends when I first “came out” to them. “But don’t you get jealous?” Why yes, yes I do. Some days it might…

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Couples In Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy

Cheers Sexy People! So… Monogamous or Non-monogamous? That is the question. I eventually answered that question (once I realized I had a safe ethical choice) as quite firmly: non-monogamous, as did my husband and we came to that decision together at the same time (OK, maybe I nudged first after reading Ethical Slut and feeling…

Walking Out Of The Darkness

Cheers Sexy People! This past Saturday nite, I went to the Out Of The Darkness Walk (sponsored by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention) in support of several of my friends who were walking in memory of those that they had lost through suicide. I was deeply moved by the experience. There were over 2,000…

3 Communication Pitfalls To Avoid

Hello Sexy People! Today I am recovering from a 5-day mini vacation / destination wedding in the heart of the U.S. in Nashville, TN. I may have over-celebrated a little bit.  🙂  Being that it is Tuesday after Memorial Day Weekend, I’m betting many of you are also recovering from hopefully fun-filled weekends. So I…

Poly Interview: Ethical non-monogamy from a young man in LA (Part Two)

This is the third in a series of interviews of everyday people who are living a poly lifestyle (either polyamorous or polysexual), from their individual perspectives. They were each given a series of questions, and asked to pick several questions that they would like to answer from their personal experience. This third interview is of…