We Said “I Love You” – Now What?

Cheers Sexy People, Recently, a reader whom I’ve spoken to in the past asked for some advice. I thought I would share her situation here, my response, and put it out here on my blog in case anyone else has any wise words of advice from the polyamory trenches. Situation: She (whom I’ll refer to…

Poly Interview: Ethical non-monogamy from a woman in Asia

This is eighth in a series of interviews of everyday people who are living a poly lifestyle (either polyamorous or polysexual), from their individual perspectives. They were each given a series of questions, and asked to pick several questions that they would like to answer from their personal experience. This eighth interview is of a…

Featured Again on “Threesomes and Variations”

I am honored that last week’s blog post, Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values was recently highlighted again as a featured article on the informative and interesting blog Threesomes and Variations. This article initiated more great conversations and shared insights on the subject of navigating boundaries and negotiations in polyamorous relationships (or any relationship for…

Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I contemplated how rules, boundaries and negotiations work in polyamorous relationships, and pondered how we find common ground and figure out how to better understand each other while still honoring our own needs and desires at the same time. Once again, this can be challenging in a monogamous relationship, but…

Featured Article on “Threesomes and Variations”

I am honored that last week’s blog post, Polyamory Without Rules = Chaos? was recently highlighted as a featured article on the informative and interesting blog Threesomes and Variations. This article initiated some great conversations and shared insights on the subject of navigating boundaries and negotiations in polyamorous relationships (or any relationship for that matter).…

Nonviolent Communication and a “Coming Out” Story

Cheers Sexy People! I have been waiting for the right moment to share what I have learned about the concept and teachings of Nonviolent Communication as described by Marshall Rosenberg. Given how my last two weeks have been, now is the time, my dear friends. This is really powerful stuff, and it’s another bit of…

Special VD Post: What Does An Open Marriage LOOK Like?

Cheers Sexy People, I am sometimes asked by friends in real life or cyber acquaintances: How does your open marriage work? Or recently, my good friend (who knows about my polyamorous household / situation) asked: So how does Valentine’s Day work in your world? Will we see a “VD” special (post) marking the occasion? Sure,…

Sexual Libidos Don't Match Up: YIKES! IS IT OVER?

Cheers Sexy People! As you know, I talk to alot of people through social media and my blog. Recently, I was talking to a 37-year-old man who is in a monogamous relationship. But he was on a sexy social media site (FetLife) lurking around, considering cheating on his girlfriend. Why? Here’s what he has to…

Sex, Lies and Hypocrisy: It’s What’s On the Menu

Cheers Sexy People! A funny thing happened to me on my way home from pole fitness class. An old friend was in town, a friend that I used to have a crush on at different periods of my life, including my former life as a serial monogamist. We had never gotten together in the past…

Can Polyamory Save A Relationship (and Other Conundrums)?

Cheers Sexy People! How do we stay true to ourselves while staying true to our loved ones? How HONEST about who we are do we want to be, even to ourselves? When do we start to build resentment for hiding our true nature, stuffing our feelings down or denying ourselves pleasure? How often do we…