Is your partner interested in polyamory while you’re left wondering “how can they love me if they want to have sex with other people?”
Or maybe you’re feeling shameful of your natural desires, as if they’re somehow “wrong,” worried your partner will think you’re looking for a “get out of jail free” card that will let you sleep with anybody.
Whichever side of the coin you’re on, loving more than one person is natural. And, for you, it’s not all about sex. You’re just looking for guidance on how to love in a way that feels good and is healthy for all involved.
Because no one’s ever taught you how to love in that way.
Well, here’s good news for you: there’s no wrong way to “do poly” as long as you have honest conversations and ethical behavior in your corner.
These conversations aren’t easy. But they are what make it all work.
And the first conversation you need to have is with yourself.
You need to get real with yourself and identify if you’re truly open to ethical non-monogamy. Or, if you’re at least open to your partner exploring it.
You need to figure out your core values. And get out of any relationship you’re not aligned with.
This is where I come in.
These things aren’t easy to figure out when you’re in the thick of it. I help you find clarity from within – clarity about what you want and about your values.
Then I help you work through the feelings and insecurities that naturally come up as you’re weeding through decades of societal programming that told you monogamy was the only way. Programming that led you to look for love from a place of fear and scarcity (not wanting to be alone) instead of excitement and abundance (realizing that you’re worthy of love and it is plentiful).
Now, monogamy may be the way for you. But have you ever even given yourself the option of choice?
Having been in polyamorous relationships for over 5 years (I have a husband and we both explore relationships with other partners) and ethically non-monogamous relationships for about 10, I know the exact struggles you’re going through.
And I’ve worked through them all. I want to help you work through them too.
So you can experience the deep level of love you want to.
A love so strong that you want your partner to experience as much love as they desire.
A love built on such trust that you know your partner isn’t going anywhere – that you are cherished.
A love built on such a strong foundation of love, honesty, and communication, you’re able to talk through any jealousy and insecurity that comes up – directly with your partner.
It’s all possible. You can create that. All the clarity is inside you. Let me help you bring it to the surface.
There are a couple ways you can work with me. And they all start with a FREE 20-minute consultation. On the call I’ll get to find out about you and your specific struggles. And you’ll get a feel of what it’s like to work with me. Then, we can decide if we’re a good fit. Can’t wait to chat with you!
Note: If you seek a therapist or if I believe you may be better served by one rather than myself, I have a few highly qualified and open minded recommendations for you.