Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community!
I am very excited to share my latest podcast interview with Wendy Newman, author and relationship expert. I became familiar with Wendy Newman’s work while visiting some dear friends, Linda and Curtis, in California (thanks for the referral, my friends!). They knew I have had this long-standing podcast, and told me: “I think we have a great suggestion for someone that you can interview! Here’s her book!” I was instantly intrigued, as I have often said that I should have written a book about my online dating experiences, because I was definitely a pioneer of online dating, starting back in 1996, when some folks didn’t even have an email address, let alone were courageous enough to meet strangers on the Internet (gasp!) and then meet them out in public in person. I honor Wendy for her bravery in going on 121 First Dates, and not only living to tell about it, yet vulnerably share her experiences with us. BTW, I’m going on a first date today, as I write this post! Haha! Wish me luck… Wendy! I am so glad to have finally made your acquaintance (online as it were so far!), and delighted for you that you have written this awesome book that I’m sure can and will help millions who are embarking on first dates… whether after breakups/divorce and newly single, or discovering they are polyamorous/ENM, or becoming widowed, or the many MANY reasons we as humans want to meet new people, connect, and fall in love… again and again. Sending big love, and I hope that we meet in person someday.
Here is her Bio:
Wendy Newman has spent over 20 years in relationships, has taught 90k+ people, and has identified as ethically non-monogamous since 2013. She is the author of “121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!).” In this book that is based on years of research and 121 real-life first dates, relationship expert Wendy Newman dishes up practical wisdom for navigating the online dating trenches with grace, efficiency, and a strong dose of humor.
Wendy’s 14 Questions for Monthly check-ins in relationships
Some topics we discuss in this highly interesting, informative, and thought-provoking interview:
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How relationship success hinges on meaning well, high integrity, and love.
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Regular, intentional communication is critical to maintaining successful conditions.
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Her “full moon ritual”: a monthly check-in based on 14 designed questions to clear communication blockages and foster transparency.
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Highlighting the importance of flexibility in relationships.
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The practical benefits of polyamory include shared responsibilities and complementary household roles.
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Online dating insights such as the importance of early face-to-face meetings to assess chemistry and avoid wasting time on purely online interactions.
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Her ongoing commitment to normalizing diverse relationship models and providing tools that help people find happiness on their own terms.
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Tune in to listen to this fantastic podcast episode!
Thank you, Wendy, for being so wonderfully generous with your time, and for sharing your work and life with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, interesting, and so fun! You can learn more about Wendy on her Website, and Facebook.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then check out Episode 279 with Wendy Newman. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the LWB podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
ANNOUNCEMENT — GUEST PODCAST APPEARANCES
I recently have had the honor of being featured on these awesome podcasts:
Open Window Institute Podcast with Jesse Dean, released February 10, 2025, where we discuss struggling with debilitating stress and anxiety on my journey to emotional freedom fulfilling my mission.
The Sensitivity Doctor Podcast by Dr. Amelia Kelley, Episode 109 where we discuss healing codependency.
Indie Author Weekly Podcast, Episode 112 in which I talk about writing my book, “Jealousy Survival Guide.”
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast, Episode 179 as I share my story with them.
Poly Weekly Podcast, Episode 540 in which I talk about my insights on jealousy and my book, “Jealousy Survival Guide.”
Multiamory Podcast by Dedeker Winston, Episode 140 where I talk about the lessons I’ve learned as a polyamorous person who struggles with jealousy.
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Where are you on your non-traditional relationship journey? Are you just starting out, feeling alone and confused? Unsure how to navigate this new world?
On Wednesday, November 19th at 10:30am ET, I am hosting a FREE Live Masterclass called: “The 5-Step Formula My Clients Use to Create Healthy, Loving, Open Relationships (even if nothing has worked before)” in our Private LWB Facebook group.
This Masterclass will show you how to live your most authentic life free from shame & guilt with tools to liberate you from challenging emotions like jealousy once and for all. And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events… So Join the Facebook group and then reserve your seat for this life-changing event!
LWB Local Washington DC Metro Area Meetup
– If you’re local or happen to be visiting the DC metro area, come join us for a fun and engaging social gathering at 6:45 pm ET on Wednesday, November 12, 2025, at Murphy’s Grand Irish Pub (713 King Street, Alexandria, VA 22314). Location subject to change.
Join our Meetup Group to RSVP for the event!
>> Looking for more events around the globe? Check out Alan’s Polyamory List of Events to stay informed and connected.
See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty Chambliss, Master Certified Coach (MCC), CPC, TIC
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