Cheers Sexy People!
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! As always, I am sending good energy and vibes of hope and love to our amazing community. I believe that sharing inspirational stories of hope, inclusion, and healthy lifestyles are more important than ever. If you are looking for ways to connect with loved ones you may be separated from, check out this blog post for resources and ideas. On to another inspiring story…
I am delighted to share my latest podcast interview with Dr. Rebbeca Lahann. I had the absolute pleasure of attending Dr. Lahann’s workshop last year at Southwest Love Fest, back in April 2023. That workshop, “Are Your Sexual Values Aligned, or in 69” came at just the right time in my own personal life as I navigated some of my own challenges in my polyamorous relationships. Yes, it’s true – even though I study, teach, and mentor other’s on their polyamorous / CNM journey, that does not mean that I am immune to having my own struggles and challenges. I often say “we are all in the trenches of our own work.” Dr. Lahann’s talk touched on starting to identify what our own sexual values are (if we are unclear), noticing when our own values may be out of alignment with our partner’s, and figuring out where you might be stuck. She offered many different tools to navigate this conundrum, such as flexibility versus inflexibility, realizing when we might be fusing to our thoughts as if they are true, and not being fully present with our partner(s) (stuck in the past or future). Dr. Lahann then expertly walked us through how to get back in alignment with a series of empowering and curiosity-based questions. Dr. Rebbeca — Oh my goodness, I am so glad that our paths aligned. I super appreciate your brilliant talk, and expert insights, and I deeply align with the work that you do. Brava! Keep going, knowing I’m cheering you on every step of the way!
Here is her Bio:
Dr. Lahann is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Clinical Psychologist, and speaker. She is focused on providing education, resources, and psychological services as the Clinical Director of Spectrum Psychology and Wellness in Gilbert, AZ. Her work specializes in individual counseling and holistic sex therapy, focusing on intersectional approaches to values-aligned living across the lifespan.
She has experience working with diverse bio-psycho-social-sexual backgrounds, relational dynamics, and a broad spectrum of mental health presentations. She has been involved in the BDSM, kink, ENM and poly communities for several decades, and is a member of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), and Kink and Polyamory Aware Professionals Directory (KAP).
Dr. Lahann has been an active member of her professional community in various roles. She is Past-President of the Arizona Psychological Association and the Arizona Psychology Training Consortium.
Some topics we discuss in this highly interesting, informative, and entertaining interview:
- Exploring and aligning sexual values.
- How internalized rules and stories can hinder emotional responses and behavior expectations.
- Identifying values, and how that shapes beliefs, priorities, as well as recognizing behavior patterns that may hold us back.
- Balancing flexibility and non-negotiable boundaries in relationships.
- Tune in to listen to this fantastic podcast episode!
Thank you, Dr. Lahann, for being so wonderfully generous with your time, and for sharing your work and life with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, interesting, and so fun! You can contact Dr. Lahann by visiting her website or following her on instagram.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then check out Episode 241 with Dr. Rebbeca Lahann. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the LWB podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
I recently have had the honor of being featured on these awesome podcasts:
40+ Gay Men Gay Talk Podcast by Rick Clemons, Episode 193 where I talk about throuples and polyamory.
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast, Episode 179 as I share my story with them.
Indie Author Weekly Podcast, Episode 112 in which I talk about writing my book, “The Jealousy Survival Guide.”
The Open Nesters Podcast, Episode 14 and hear me chat with them on jealousy, compersion, and how to handle a deep relationship.
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See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty Chambliss, Master Coach, CPC
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