Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! My heart goes out to you during these challenging times. I hope you are doing your best to keep safe. Sharing inspirational stories of hope, inclusion, and healthy lifestyles are more important than ever. If you are looking for ways to connect with loved ones you are separated from, check out this blog post that I shared recently. On to another inspiring story…
I am delighted to share my latest podcast interview that I released recently with Jim Fleckenstein, author, relationship coach and educator. Jim and I last connected when I interviewed him for Episode 148 when we were dealing with the beginning of the pandemic and social distancing. It was such a pleasure to welcome him back and hear all about his latest research, “Comparing the Self‑Reported Health, Happiness, and Marital Happiness of a Multinational Sample of Consensually Non‑Monogamous Adults with Those of the U.S. General Population: Additional Comparisons by Gender, Number of Sexual Partners, Frequency of Sex, and Marital Status”, which was published in Summer 2021. This ground-breaking work is truly super exciting, as it looked at the happiness of those who identify as consensually non-monogamous compared to those in the general population and found some amazing conclusions. There is much to uncover in this work, so it you’d like the “cliff notes”, I invite you to tune in to this episode and hear some of the biggest and most fascinating takeaways. Jim, you are a marvel! I miss seeing you in person, and hope that we get to do that soon! Keep charging forward with your much needed work that is serving our community in a huge way.
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Here is his bio:
Jim Fleckenstein became a relationship coach and educator because of his own life experiences. After the end of his 25-year marriage in 2000, he put the skills he’d gained from his successful non-profit career and his insatiable curiosity to work on relationships. He began a rigorous self-education process that included reaching out personally to leading researchers. His efforts quickly bore fruit. He created an organization that focuses on self-education, scientific research, and helping people have successful relationships. Along the way, Jim developed a unique approach to relationships based on proven methods he encountered over his years of study. Ultimately, he formalized this approach as his Affirmative Intimacy(tm) method. His book, “Love That Works: 38 Awesome Hacks for Amazing Relationships” came out in December 2019.
Some topics we discuss in this fun, informative, and entertaining interview:
- The genesis of the initial research idea.
- The size of the research study sample and some of its demographics.
- Why they chose the General Social Survey as a control population, and the pros and cons of doing so.
- How happiness correlated with the number of sexual partners, when that was in alignment with the respondent’s lifestyle choice.
- Some of the differences he found among male-identified versus female-identified respondents.
- The frequency of sex among the general and CNM populations, and its correlation to happiness.
- How his book, “Love that Works: 38 Awesome Hacks for Amazing Relationships”, can be a valuable resource for people in all types of relationships.
Tune in to listen to this fantastic and fascinating podcast episode!
Thank you Jim for being so wonderful and for sharing your story with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, interesting, and so fun! You can connect with Jim via his website, book webpage and Facebook.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then check out Episode 181 with Jim Fleckenstein. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the LWB podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
ANNOUNCEMENT — GUEST PODCAST APPEARANCES
I recently have had the honor of being featured on these awesome podcasts:
Eitan Battat WERB 107.5 Radio Show, Father’s Day Show, June 16, 2021 – “My Dad and Me and The Music We Loved”
Practicing Polyamory Podcast, Episode 62 – “Telling Your Partner You Are Polyamorous”
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast, Episode 179 as I share my story with them.
Indie Author Weekly Podcast, Episode 112 in which I talk about writing my book, “The Jealousy Survival Guide.”
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UPCOMING POLY-FRIENDLY EVENTS
TBD due to COVID. Let’s send some love and hope out there that 2022 will be our year to finally start traveling again safely! Community is everything!
See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty
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