From Queer Monogamous Breakup to Polyamorous Chosen Family?

Now I’ve seen it all.

Our client Carol was struggling. Big time.

She was going through a breakup with her monogamous nesting partner. It was a truly emotional and painfully transformative time in her life. And she was grasping for help and resources.

She came to me after finding my website and my podcast (thankfully!).

Carol felt desperate. She was going through a “coming out” process in regards to being polyamorous. She found that after some painful attempts to be monogamous that it just simply was NOT her TRUTH. As a result, she was trying to navigate a devastating breakup with her monogamous girlfriend.

Ouch. I felt her pain. I’ve been there. It sucks.

She was hurting. Fumbling for information. Looking for like-minded folks.

Eventually she came to work with me, and wondered: Are healthy polyamorous / consensually non-monogamous relationships even possible?

If so… HOW?

She wondered: Can polyamorous or open relationships really FEEL and BE safe, happy, and secure? At that moment to her, it sounded crazy. But then I asked Carol one KEY question. A question that unlocked everything:

“How would you have to change your thinking in order to believe healthy polyamorous relationships were not only possible, but probable?”

And…

“Who would you have to become to be a person thriving in that type of relationship?”

Now, it was not an easy road for Carol to answer these questions honestly. She was consumed with anxiety, despair, even depression. She was also feeling desperate not to lose one of the loves of her life.

She also didn’t understand how folks give up everything they know and what “feels safe” (meaning monogamy) for total uncertainty and change.

I told Carol this: “CHANGE is a part of LIFE, just like death and taxes. UNCERTAINTY is a part of life too, for ALL of us! There are no guarantees, even if someone chooses monogamy and a more ‘normative’ life. You are NOT alone.”

Turns out, what Carol needed was to feel deeply heard, understood, and acknowledged. But what she also needed?

Community… HOPE…

And Certainty – certainty that this could actually WORK. If she had those three things …she could climb any mountain when it came to building the relationship house (and chosen family) of her dreams.

Needless to say, Carol was skeptical.

Yet, despite that, she went to work. She applied our system. And she immediately got astounding results… first within herself, her own confidence, and her belief system.

Then she got results with her partners.

She had the difficult conversations. She swallowed her fear.

Then something amazing happened.

Doors opened up in her relationship that she never thought were possible. She received understanding. Her metamour even reached out to her in a compassionate, caring, and kind way (instead of being inflexible, possessive, and fearful).

That’s what happens when you really know your truth and your value. That’s what happens when you have a mentor, a system that works, and the Loving Without Boundaries team in your corner.

And if Carol can do it with her relationships, is there any reason why YOU can’t do it with yours?

The truth: I’m not sure. I don’t know you personally, yet.

But there’s one way to find out: Book a call with my team here.

We’ll put our heads together for about 45 minutes. Together, we’ll help you figure out what your truth is, and how you can create the relationships of your dreams, with multiple amazing people you cherish. We’ll talk about what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships, as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to change your relationships for the better, and stay that way!