When Craig reached out to me, he was overwhelmed with feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and general feelings of overwhelm. He was in a long-distance relationship with his lover, who had a local, more casual relationship. There were scary feelings of rejection, isolation during COVID, fear of loss, and confusion about whether to talk about these feelings with his lover or not.
I could feel his pain. It was palpable. Craig also shared that he experienced sleepless nights over all of this anxiety and ruminating thoughts. His heart was breaking during an already stressful time in history as his thoughts consumed him.
Craig had tried therapy, but that therapist was monogamy leaning, and didn’t believe in open relationships. The words the therapist shared only fed the fear, the confusion, and feelings of isolation and not having a true advocate for Craig’s need to live his most authentic life, and to give his lover the freedom to lead his – miles and miles away from Craig.
With our work together, Craig dove in, was brave, courageous, and showed up truly dedicated to doing the work that needed to be done. He not only gained tools, but also more confidence, more secure feelings, and ultimately was better able to manage his emotions, thoughts, and feelings.
Even though Craig had already read my book, Craig admitted this work together was waaaay above what is in the book, with richer and deeper content. Not only that, Craig was using the priceless, lifelong skills (such as emotion regulation skills, and ninja communication skills such as embodied NVC) he learned from me for ANY relationship! (work, friends, family… understanding other’s wants and needs better).
At the end of our work together, Craig shared:
“I began the program very insecure, fearful and consumed by thoughts dragging me down. I now feel much more secure, with many tools under my belt that has set me up for such success. I feel prepared and able to handle my thoughts and feelings – making myself a better person, being a better partner in my relationship as well.”
Craig has so many tools at his fingertips that he has been practicing for weeks. He learned to be mindful of himself. When thoughts or feelings come by, he has learned to step back, and think what is actually happening (versus scary stories we tell ourselves). He learned to be more cognizant of oneself (versus living by default), taking the time to be more critical about this thinking.
Heck yes! That’s what it takes! To transform your relationships and make changes in your life, we need to change ourselves first.
…You know, there is hardly anyone or any resources offered that can create these types of transformations for courageous folks living life on their terms just like you, in open or alternative relationships. Most don’t share effective tools that actually provide immediate results.
Craig went on to say:
“This is an AMAZING program and course. You brought me a long way, and it helped me out tremendously! It’s not just for relationships but for life overall, progressing and growing as a person too. I am now set up for success! Thank you!”
Wow! That’s what happens when you really know your truth and your value. That’s what happens when you have a mentor, a system that works, and the Loving Without Boundaries team in your corner.
And if Craig could do it with his relationships, is there any reason why YOU can’t do it with yours?
The truth: I’m not sure. I don’t know you personally, yet.
But there’s one way to find out: Book a call with my team: https://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply.
We’ll put our heads together for about 45 minutes. Together, we’ll help you figure out what your truth is, and how you can create your most authentic life of your dreams, with amazing people you cherish. We’ll talk about what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships, as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to change your relationships for the better, and stay that way!
Very few teachers and coaches can create the kind of transformation and beauty in their personal growth and relationships that Craig did.
Yet Loving Without Boundaries relationship coaching can do that.
Book a call here: https://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply. Let’s see what we can do for you.
The call is totally free. I invite you to book a call now! You may look back on this day with a huge smile months from now as being the start of a transformational journey for you! I’m so excited to speak with you!
With love and gratitude,
Kitty Chambliss, PCC, CPC, ELI-MP
Founder, Loving Without Boundaries