When Clive first came to me, he was in a tailspin and feeling hopeless. He was struggling with feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy. Worse, self-loathing and sadness had started to set in. There was this sense of feeling unsettled, vulnerable, and just deeply guilty about being himself — owning his polyamorous nature that he had been denying, stuffing down, all while worrying he was hurting others just by “being” who he was.
Holy Hanna, that’s a lot of misery!
On top of that, he found it very hard to prioritize his own needs. This caused him to do anything “just for himself” either in secrecy or pretend that his needs/desires were not what he wanted afterall (denying his own truth). I bet many of you can relate.
Clive revealed that he had a strong internal conflict of not being capable of finding satisfaction with monogamy for literally his entire adult life. In his 40s now, Clive was desperate to find strategies to finally live a much happier and more fulfilling life. But how?
Luckily, Clive has a supportive long-term partner who pointed him to my work and the online masterclass that I offer. She was doing her best to accept and understand Clive’s polyamorous nature. Clive reached out because he was looking for signs of hope, and learn where he could do better in dealing with his emotions, thought processes, and communication.
The first week we worked together, Clive thought “WTF am I doing?” because he was not used to investing in himself. Often we will invest time, energy, and money on other people. But in the UK where Clive is based, you can be called a “wanker for disappearing up your own ass.” So prioritizing his own needs was really pushing Clive out of his comfort zone of his misery. He later admitted you can get used to feeling a certain way, even when it’s lousy – we numb out and normalize our own suffering. It’s just familiar to us.
Well that’s no way to live! There is another way…
Today Clive feels “quite good” (definitely NOT like a “wanker”). Why? Because he got exactly the outcome that he wanted! Total self-acceptance, balance, a deep sense of inner security, confidence, and strength. He showed up super powerfully to do this work! He was diligent, worked hard, showed up to every call, and is reaping the benefits today.
Within the first few weeks, Clive had massively mind-blowing epiphanies! This continued to happen week after week. Even though not all of the concepts he was learning were new to him, he was seeing how to actually use these tools in his every day life and relationships.
By the end of our work together, Clive is now exactly where he wanted to be. Total self-love and deep self-acceptance – the holy grail of what we all aspire to. All with an inner sense of stability.
In terms of his accomplishments, Clive shared:
“[This program and work] leaves you with the knowledge that you can navigate these troubled waters that is life, and still hold yourself true to your values and integrity. The storms don’t stop. But you have the ability to hold yourself, the knowledge that you can provide your own support system. An awful lot of the benefit I’ve gotten from this work is my inner communication. I know alot more about my inner workings than I had before. The feelings we are all subjected to are a veneer sitting on the top. The ability to ‘interrogate’ our feelings and dive into it and unpack it. Understand what is underneath the feeling, then change their inner landscape to be a better human, versus outsource the responsibility (to others). Know that emotion is MY emotion. That is REALLY POWERFUL. If you use it, it’s life changing. If you don’t, it isn’t.”
He went on to say:
“There are a few things in my life where I am glad I spent money on himself. This is one of them. We buy tools to help us do our jobs professionally. We rarely buy tools to interact with people or navigate life. This is very much a tool for the navigation of life. This all helps me communicate with myself, and achieve balance.”
Clive now has inner strength, a support system, and confidence because he now knows what he is truly capable of. He has truly owned the greatness that was inside of him, that I helped draw out to the light so he can shine. Heck yes! Wow!
That’s what happens when you really know your truth and your value. That’s what happens when you have a mentor, a system that works, and the Loving Without Boundaries team in your corner.
And if Clive could achieve all this, is there any reason why YOU can’t do it too?
The truth: I’m not sure. I don’t know you personally, yet.
But there’s one way to find out:
Book a call with my team at lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply
We’ll put our heads together for about 45 minutes. Together, we’ll talk about what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships (with multiple amazing people you cherish), as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to change your relationships for the better, and stay that way!
Clive went on to share:
“The Jealousy Survival Guide Program undersells itself – it’s not just about Jealousy. It’s about relationships, in all their infinite variety. This Program is essential for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of their relationship with their partner, themselves, and all the people around them. I did not take the enrollment of this lightly but I am so, so glad I did it. It’s the best investment I’ve ever made in myself.”
…You know, there is hardly anyone or any resources offered that can create these types of transformations for courageous folks living life on their terms just like you, in open or alternative relationships. Most don’t share effective tools that actually provide immediate results.
Clive went on to say:
“I definitely would recommend this Program. You get out what you put in! You have to put in the work to change yourself within it. If you are prepared to show up, and you want real results for yourself and the people around you, go for it!”
Very few teachers and coaches can create the kind of transformation and beauty in their personal growth and relationships that Clive did.
Yet Loving Without Boundaries coaching can do that.
Book a call at lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply. Let’s see what we can do for you.
The call is totally free, and will last about 45 minutes and in it, I invite you to book a call now! You may look back on this day with a huge smile months from now as being the start of a transformational journey for you! I’m so excited to speak with you!
With love and gratitude,
Kitty Chambliss, PCC, CPC, ELI-MP
Founder, Loving Without Boundaries