When Linda first came to me, she was in a sad and frustrated place, in the middle of a divorce from her wife. She felt that she had dimmed who she really was (including being bisexual) in her 12-year monogamous marriage and had self-sacrificed along the way.
On top of that, COVID happened, which increased her feelings of loss and sadness. Linda was really struggling, feeling alone, and knew she needed help to re-define what this next chapter of her life looked like. How had she lost sight of her needs, including her independence? And what else is out there besides monogamy?
Before we met, Linda had tried therapy, yoga, even couples counseling. These attempts did help a bit, but she still found herself without real clarity, without knowing what she really wanted to do and where to go with her life and relationships. She felt lost and confused.
She came to work with us after hearing a guest podcast interview I did. She was seeking more freedom in her relationships and less “same old arguments” and frustration.
From our very first call, Linda felt deeply heard, understood, and seen by an advocate for her and her beautiful needs. As an online course designer, she was also impressed with the quality of materials. She was ready to trust her gut, invest in herself and her well-being, and dive in.
Dive in she did! Laura showed up, did the work, was diligent, and got the outcome that she wanted.
Linda learned within mere weeks how to define and stand up for her needs, share them compassionately so that she was heard and respected, and gently asserted her boundaries. She even took a stand for herself when she was faced with couple privilege in a fledging relationship where she got veto’d and “put on a shelf.” She was able to express herself, hold others gently accountable, and heal relationships with folks who are still her friends today.
By the end of our work together, Linda had an extremely clear vision of what she wanted in her life, and manifested it by her graduation day! She had a hot date with a lovely man she met on a popular dating site after I challenged her to get out there and shine her light (versus sit in “Poor me – I can’t meet anyone” victim energy).
She totally rocked it, attracted an amazing person to her, did not dim her light around seeking a healthy non-monogamous relationship where she had freedom of choice, and she just glowed! All in eight weeks!
On top of that, she healed past trauma with her ex, realizing how she could better handle conversations with her co-parent moving forward (instead of damaging defensiveness and conflict, she chose now to look to unmet needs of both parties while expressing empathy). These insights and tools even rippled out to her business relationships too.
She now had freedom, growth, clarity, love, and sexual joy and acceptance. Heck yes! Wow!
That’s what happens when you really know your truth and your value. That’s what happens when you have a mentor, a system that works, and the Loving Without Boundaries team in your corner.
And if Linda could do it with her relationships, is there any reason why YOU can’t do it with yours?
The truth: I’m not sure. I don’t know you personally, yet.
But there’s one way to find out:
Book a call with my team here.
We’ll put our heads together for about 45 minutes. Together, we’ll help you figure out what your truth is, and how you can create the relationships of your dreams, with multiple amazing people you cherish. We’ll talk about what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships, as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to change your relationships for the better, and stay that way!
“I definitely recommend doing this work. It sets you up to have strong relationships in life. As an online teacher, there are three domains that are important: 1) Instructor Presence; 2) Cognitive Presence; and 3) Social Presence. This coaching system has it all. Kitty was so present and really listens, the content was excellent, and the social aspect was great too with community and group calls. It had all the facets. If I were to rate it, I would give it EMPLEMPLARY!”
…You know, there is hardly anyone or any resources offered that can create these types of transformations for courageous folks living life on their own terms just like you, in open or alternative relationships. Most don’t share effective tools that actually provide immediate results.
Linda went on to say:
“It is worth investing in ourselves, putting in the work. I realize now it was a gift being locked up in the house (during COVID), finding ME again. I did so much work, and now I’m ready to interface with other people. I would go for coaching over therapy in the future.”
Very few teachers and coaches can create the kind of transformation and beauty in their personal growth and relationships that Laura did.
Yet Loving Without Boundaries coaching can do that.
Book a call here. Let’s see what we can do for you.
The call is totally free, and will last about 45 minutes. You may look back on this day with a huge smile months from now as being the start of a transformational journey for you! I’m so excited to speak with you!
With love and gratitude,
Kitty Chambliss, PCC, CPC, ELI-MP
Founder, Loving Without Boundaries
P.S. So many of my clients like Linda are doing the happy dance and enjoying thriving relationships, even during this crazy time in history. And you know what? This journey all started when they booked the same call I’m inviting you to book. If they hadn’t made that appointment, that one decision would have cost them deeply cherished relationships. I invite you to book a call at lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply if you are ready for transformation and positive change now. Let’s see how far we can take you, your relationships, and your life.
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