Cheers Sexy People!
Well we did it, gang! We made it to 100 EPISODES! I want to thank my partners, my fur babies who give me love while I’m conducting interviews, and, and… I’m joking around. Who do I want to thank here? I want honor and celebrate every single person that I have interviewed, and every single listener who ever tuned in to this podcast, and of course our patrons. More on that in a minute. Let’s talk about Episode #100!
I am thrilled to share my latest podcast interview with the witty, the fascinating, the infamous Franklin Veaux. Many of our readers here know who Franklin is partly by his popular co-authored book “More Than Two” and also his memoir “The Game Changer.” Some of you may even know from his numerous Facebook posts that he recently has been specializing in creating tentacle sex toys! This guy will stop at nothing to create magic in the world in his own way! I was so delighted to meet him in person finally at Beyond The Love 2018. I will admit I was a bit nervous when he sat behind me minutes before I was about to give my Keynote Address. How in the world did I get the honor to deliver the Keynote at this fantastic conference when the infamous Franklin Veaux was also in attendance? No pressure to make the keynote as outstanding as I was able to! Holy moly! In the moment, I let this all help me up my game. Let’s do this! And we did (more on that in a future post). Right after my keynote, I introduced myself to Franklin, got the required selfie, and we ended up chatting with some other fantastic and fun attendees (including my partners) well into the evening. The following day, we all attended Franklin’s presentation as well, which I thoroughly enjoyed. With his many many years of experience in polyamorous relationships, his vulnerability to speak openly about his mistakes, and his hilarious delivery of his own stories of pain and courage, I am delighted to share this epic 100th episode!
As the Loving Without Boundaries podcast reaches this important milestone, it’s a great opportunity to re-state the mission here. The point of the LWB podcast is to share many voices and stories, and to highlight that there is more than one way to create a healthy relationship. It is also to illustrate our shared humanity. To the monogamous folks out there, it’s to help them understand that polyamorous folks are people too – we are not aliens. We also screw up, and we are not “enlightened”, or think we are better than other folks where monogamy may suit them just fine. I’m helping share with folks that they have CHOICE in how to create relationships. I’m doing my level best to champion sexual freedom and relationship equality… all while discussing ways that we can create healthy relationships, and even heal from trauma – past and sometimes present.
Here is Franklin’s Bio:
As a child, Franklin heard a fairy tale about a princess forced to choose between two handsome princes, and thought, “Everyone knows princesses live in castles. And castles are big enough for both princes. So why does she have to choose?” Franklin has been writing about polyamory since 1997. He started his website as a resource for his former self: the Franklin who didn’t know that there were other people like him, had never heard the word polyamory, and who had no idea how to navigate polyamorous relationships. The site has grown over the years, and since 1999 has been one of the Internet’s top destinations for information about polyamory. He speaks and writes about polyamory, BDSM, nontraditional sexuality, and more. In 2011, he moved the site from its old home at xeromag.com to its current home at morethantwo.com. In 2014 he co-authored a book on polyamory by the same name: More Than Two: A practical guide to polyamory. He currently has several long-term partners and lives in Portland, Oregon with one of his partners, while his wife lives in Orlando, Florida.
Some topics we discuss in this juicy, fired-up, and heart-wrenching interview:
— Why Franklin decided to join us at Beyond The Love 2018, why he didn’t get any sleep, and why the experience was bittersweet for him.
— Why Franklin does not believe he (or anyone else) is an expert on polyamory, and consensual non-monogamy.
— Franklin’s thoughts on the book he co-authored – “More Than Two” – and how he may have added more to it if given the chance.
— His thoughts on heartbreak as part of the human condition, and why the feelings can compound upon themselves. His thoughts on how love is not for cowards.
— The concept of “burning our past to the ground” in terms of dealing with lovers from our past.
— His thoughts on how we are born of frailty and error, and how this is part of the human condition, including when dealing with the trauma of breakups.
— We touch on the “cultural construct of monogamy” versus monogamy as an option to build relationships.
— Franklin also shares his love of exploring the creation of proper tentacle sex toys!
Thank you Franklin, for being so awesomely generous with your time; for the incredible and large body of work you have contributed to the polyamorous community; and for sharing your wisdom and insights with us via the podcast interview! It was enlightening, engaging, and so fun! Follow Franklin”s work at MoreThanTwo.com and also at Franklin Veaux.com.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and check out Episode 100 (yes we hit 100!) with Franklin. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the Loving Without Boundaries podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
CONTEST/GIVEAWAY 100th Episode OFFER: If you become a patron of the podcast RIGHT NOW, your name will be put in a drawing to win best-selling books signed by polyamory-friendly authors such as Tivka Wolf, Franklin Veaux, Kevin Patterson, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff as well as yours truly. Learn more here at this link! HURRY! Time is running out to jump at the chance to win these prizes while you also help make the world a more loving, and accepting place. Let’s do this! See you there!
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
EXCLUSIVE CONTENT OFFER – We continue to have some exciting goings on here at Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). We now have exclusive content for you via the LWB podcast and my Patreon page for those who choose to become a patron. Please visit the link to check out how you can come join the party over at Patreon! Want to hear more from our amazing interviewees? You got it! Want to dig deeper into the community and your fellow poly folk? Right on, let’s do it! Want free relationship coaching? It’s all there! Come join us, and enjoy exclusive content made just for you, our patrons of this work!
NOTE: Soon I will be offering a monthly group “hangout” and coaching calls for all of our podcast patrons at any level. If you are supporting the podcast, I am supporting you on your journey. Come join us and meet like-minded folks on the same journey you are!
UPCOMING POLYAMOROUS-FRIENDLY EVENTS
1) Free LWB Facebook Group for Healthy, Sex Positive, Open Relationships — Ready to explore healthy, deeply connected (and virtually jealousy-free) open relationships? It’s all possible – especially when surrounded by a community of people already doing it. Many in newly open relationships experience roller coaster emotions of jealousy, insecurity, and feel alone on their journey. That’s why I created this free Facebook group where people are coming together to share actionable tips for succeeding in multiple loving relationships, explore deeper love, and find mutual understanding and support. There’s an abundance of rock star information posted in the group daily by our amazing members. We create a safe place to engage that’s fun and thrilling! Click here and request to join our free group!
2) Southwest Love Fest (SWLF), Tucson, Arizona, March 29–31, 2019 — “The Southwest Love Fest is a weekend conference on consensual non-monogamy held annually in Tucson, AZ with opportunities to learn, share and connect with other like-minded people. We had a hugely successful 1st year in 2018 and plan to make it even better for 2019! Taking what we learned this past year, 2019 is set to be even more radical, thought-provoking, and transformational. SWLF is an open space to find community and learn from others’ diverse relationship experiences.” NOTE: I will be there presenting my “Jealousy Survival Guide” workshop at SWLF 2019! Come join us at this fun polyamorous conference!
3) National Sex Educator Conference (NSEC), Newark, New Jersey, April 5, 2019 — The Center for Sex Education (CSE) has been hosting an annual Sex Ed Conference since 1985. What started as a one-day conference for New Jersey health educators has grown into the largest conference in the United States that is exclusively devoted to sexuality education. Participants attend from across the nation and many other parts of the world to network and learn best practices in sexuality education, addressing a spectrum of topics, audiences, and ages. NOTE: I will be presenting at the 7:30am Friday Round Table discussions on: “Polyamory In Practice: Understanding Consensual Non-monogamy.”
4) Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit (SFS), Alexandria, Virginia, August 15–18, 2019 —The Sexual Freedom Summit features human rights activists, sexuality educators and researchers, professionals from the legal and medical fields, authors, sexual freedom movement leaders and organizational partners all working toward the time when sexual freedom is fully recognized as a fundamental human right. This Summit is for EVERYONE interested in learning about the issues in the realm of sexual freedom, advancing their current knowledge and in gaining the tools to actually create the change we need to accomplish. I already have my ticket! I hope to see you there!
See you on the flip side, lovely community! Keep being brave, compassionately vulnerable, and uniquely and authentically you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
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THIS IN FROM “CONCERNED LISTENER” COMMENTER: Given how recently the interview was posted, and that the statement about his abuse of former partners was published very soon after that, I think it would be only fair to your listeners to give them that context if they are not aware of it.