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Cheers Sexy People!
I am so happy to share with you my review of Franklin Veaux’s book: The Game Changer: A Memoir of Disruptive Love, distributed through Thorntree Press where Franklin is a co-founder.
I had absolutely no expectations before reading this book. I didn’t know anything about Franklin’s personal life or history. I knew that he was one of the co-founders of Thorntree Press where my friend Louisa recently published her book. And I also knew that Franklin was the co-author of More Than Two (a book that I am still in the middle of reading – a book review to come in the future for that). Honestly, I was not even 100% sure what the title meant at the time. But I was excited to learn more about Franklin.
Here is a brief description that I will share:
To make an open marriage work, Franklin and Celeste knew they needed to make sure no one else ever came between them. That meant there had to be rules. No overnights, no falling in love, and either one of them could ask the other to end an outside relationship if it became too much to deal with. It worked for nearly two decades—and their relentless focus on their own relationship let them turn a blind eye to the emotional wreckage they were leaving behind them…
A game-changing relationship is one that uproots and redirects your life. It overthrows your assumptions about who you are and why. It awakens you to possibilities you’d never conceived of. It disrupts. And it is the unspoken elephant in the attractive showroom of polyamorous relationships.
I most certainly don’t want to give away the story so that you can enjoy it yourself as it unfolds for you. Reading a memoir is very much like a journey that we are embarking on with the author through the struggles, triumphs and hallways of their life. While having no expectations for what was inside this book, I was very pleasantly surprised! This polyamorous memoir is engaging, witty, highly interesting and contains a wealth of knowledge as Franklin shares both his blind decisions and mishaps, as well as his revelations and victories!
One item that I found absolutely fascinating is that I have been linking to Franklin’s work for years on this blog and wasn’t even aware of it. Early on, when I was doing my own research, my Google searches kept resting on some strange website with the URL xeromag.com. I often wondered just what the heck “xeromag” had to do with polyamory. But I found the writing and wisdom there very well-written, thorough, practical and informative. It had saved me many a time from stepping into a ditch or walking into a wall, and I have been linking to it here at Loving Without Boundaries on many occasions (all of those links are still listed as such here, but now they re-direct to morethantwo.com automatically). How funny that I never knew who the author was and why the URL was manifesting as xeromag (Don’t want to put a spoiler here – it’s just a fun little fact that you’ll have to find out for yourself when you read the book.)
What I will say here is I owe a debt of gratitude to Franklin: First for him imparting his wisdom to me via the xeromag.com site allowing me to share it with you here on my blog. And secondly, for this outstanding book and memoir. It ties everything together so nicely and helps me understand one person’s ethically non-monogamous journey – a person that has had a major impact on our polyamorous community. Way to go, Franklin and Thorntree Press!
How about you, dear readers? Has anyone read the book yet, and what do you think so far? Also, if you could find any book that you wanted on polyamory, what would you want it to focus on? Would you like to see more memoirs of other’s journeys? Would you like a collection of poly stories or poly family configurations? Would you like to see a series of interviews? I’m curious as I may be gearing up to create a book proposal, and I’d love to hear your thoughts and take them into consideration.
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Kitty
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I’ve been waiting for this to come out. As soon as my life calms down a bit, I plan to read it. Thank you for the review!
You are most welcome! I bet you will enjoy this book, knowing the trials and tribulations that you have gone through. Franklin does a great and compassionate job speaking about his own ups and down on his polyamorous journey. A brave and smart man. Enjoy the book when you get to it! You rock! Have an awesome weekend.