Cheers Sexy People,
I have a couple of surprises for you this week! First, I have another “coming out” story for you. Recently, I wrote about a wedding that I went to back in September. One of the grooms came out to me as gay over a decade ago. But I had yet to come out to him as polyamorous. I did not want to take away from his awesome wedding day by making it about me. And I have only seen him very briefly since then. But this past Saturday nite, we went out with a smaller group. As we sat there at dinner, I decided “this was it.” I was finally going to tell him. I started to recite in my head what I would say. I started to get little butterflies. This is how it goes I find, “coming out” – lots of anxiety that is hard to avoid. We never know how it will be received.
As we walked home arm in arm, as I was out of earshot of the others, I launched into my brief coming out story. He listened quietly, and then said, “well, I already knew that.” I was at least a little surprised. I thought maybe he didn’t understand what I was saying. I said “do you remember when you came out to me as gay in my parent’s backyard all those years ago? Well, I am coming out to you as ethically non-monogamous now.” He said, “OK, but yeah, I already figured that out.” Well, isn’t THAT anti-climactic. Hahaha! He said “I’m tired. Let’s talk about this later.” Well, OK.
When I got inside with my two friends whom I had come out to about two years earlier, I told them what happened. They went on to tell me that “people talk”, and “it’s pretty obvious, Kitty, what the deal is.” Really? Wow, I had no idea I / we were so obvious. She said that I never told anyone to keep it a secret (which was true). So people talk. That felt a little bit weird, but I did my best not to overthink it. A part of it is a RELIEF, if I’m honest! She said that when I show up with my boyfriend and my husband is not there (which has only happened a few times in the past several years), that people “get it.” I thought in my mind, how odd….? What if he was just my friend? I mean, I’m not hanging all over him or anything. Maybe I’m giving him “googly eyes” and I don’t realize it. Haha! Who knows? After all, he’s the actor, not me. Whatever. I decided right then and there that:
I am officially done “coming out.“ I am no longer going to be make a big “to do” about telling people. And I am not going to try to hide my lifestyle either. If people ask me a direct question, I will answer it. Otherwise, I’m over it! Next! So without further ado, onto the next exciting thing in this post…
I would like to announce that I have created the first ever Loving Without Boundaries branded T-shirts for you, my lovely readers of this blog. Why? Because I can! And I would like to explore any vehicle available to us to help create more awareness and tolerance for sex-positive and alternate lifestyle folks across the globe.
The idea behind the T-shirt is this concept:
Do you want the world to be a better place, but don’t know how your efforts can help? Do you want there to be more tolerance, acceptance, love and compassion in this world that we all share? How about wearing this super cool T-shirt, and show your pride in who you are as a person, displaying how you are helping to create positive change in the world?
This first T-shirt will be a bit of an experiment to see if it is well-received. I have several other polyamorous / sex-positive ideas in mind for the next couple selections of shirts. I am also very interested to hear any feedback from any of you on if you like this T-shirt design, if you like the quality (once you receive one), and if you have any ideas for future shirts. I am happy to make an offer here to anyone who follows my blog: If you ever give me an idea or concept for a T-shirt that I eventually create and offer here, I will give you two free T-shirts. Keep one for yourself and give one to a friend, or give them both to two of your loves. 🙂 Because that’s how we roll here.
FYI I just found out that if you order either of these two shirts by this Thursday, they can be delivered to anyone in the United States by this Christmas! (for international orders, please allow 14-18 days for delivery. You could put a picture of the shirt in a holiday card for your love(s) and let them know it is coming).
Black T-shirt, screen-printed front and back, on high-quality, premium American Apparel Triblend – $19.99 (Reg. price $28)
Athletic Grey T-shirt, screen-printed front and back, on high-quality, premium American Apparel Triblend – $19.99 (Reg. price $28)
This T-shirt campaign is being launched by Teespring, who only partners with suppliers who uphold respectable labor practices and social responsibility policies. This project is based on a small crowdfund campaign to create custom-made apparel created by yours truly. Thanks to your continued support of this blog, I have decided to further use my skills and talents to not only share with you my polyamorous story, along with any wisdom, resources or tips that I have learned along the way. But I also want to help make the world a more beautiful place by creating sex-positive, polyamorous-friendly, inspirational T-shirts (and potentially other fun things if there is a need) for anyone who would like to further share the message.
I wish you and yours (and yours and yours 🙂 ) a wonderful holiday season. Stay safe out there and spread the love. Please feel free to give me feedback either below in the comments or via my Contact page. The happiest of holidays to you! More coming this week! Stay tuned!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Good for you to give up coming out. Just be who you are.
Thank you so much. Sage advice. I appreciate it.