Cheers Sexy People!
Once again, I have many updates for you, and I thank you whole-heartedly for your patience while I caught up with my interesting, sometimes manic life that I have created for myself. As I write this, I am driving back home from Philadelphia from band rehearsal for my upcoming Halloween rock gig next Friday night, with my boyfriend driving the car. My plan was to post this blog post using the brand spanking new Verizon Jetpack that I bought (the one I have with me now is the replacement for the first one that inexplicably stopped working for no reason). Yet this brand new technological device refuses to work. Grrrrrr. People that know me well know that I have a “holy trinity of evil” which translates to things I abhor…
- Moving (this includes moving out of my old “working-for-the-man” office into my new female-owned-small-business home office)
- Poor customer service (this includes the Verizon salesman dude saying this replacement Jetpack would work, no problem)
- Technological problems (I think you figured this one out — Jetpack not working!)
I have been working very hard at trying to create a virtual office, so that I can join you anytime that I have the opportunity or the desire to write about my polyamorous existence. But apparently this is not a perfect science. I will keep you posted if I eventually decide to throw the Jetpack out the window and opt for some other way to get on the interwebs. What are friends for but to tell you what NOT to purchase?
Back to more important things, such as love, sex and the pursuit of happiness. Yesterday was the eight year anniversary of my marriage to my wonderful husband – and I ironically spent it with my boyfriend. What’s even more ironic is that we were all three of us traveling to Philadelphia at the same time. But my husband with his high powered job had to work all night in his downtown hotel, while I sung my heart out deep in the suburbs of The Greater Philadelphia area.
My husband and I tried to stay connected yesterday, calling each other, texting each other, and honoring each other on Facebook. He had this tribute…
“Eight years ago today, I got hitched to the most rock-n-rolling, gravity-defying, ravioli-cranking, website-building, kitty-lovin’, race-runnin’, snare-drummin’, multi-faceted, multi-dimensional, multi-hued, bodacious, vivacious, purple-haired entrepreneurial rock star ever. I don’t think I’ve sat, slept, or relaxed much since. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. Thanks for everything, Kitty.”
Wow. Just wow. And AWESOME! Thanks, baby!
He made me sound really cool. I don’t feel that “cool” some days. I screw up like everybody else. I guess that makes me human and flawed. I’m ok with that.
It does once again bum me out a bit that my husband and I can outpour our love and affection to each other on such social mediums such as Facebook, whereas I don’t feel it is appropriate or that I have the ability to do so as openly with my boyfriend on our anniversary (which happens to fall on September 11th, as a strange twist of fate. Easy to remember though). But as I said recently, I am working VERY HARD lately for almost a year at focusing on the positives of my life instead of the negatives, as RO in my last post very gently reminded me. Life is about finding happiness, connecting with loved ones, finding meaning and purpose, and ROCKING IT to the best of your ability. And telling people how AWESOME they are to help support and encourage them – because maybe they don’t have as much support and encouragement in their surroundings, and they could use a little cheering on. I got that one from my good friend at www.thewellnessbucket.com. So I would like to take a moment to cheer all of YOU on! Whatever it is that you are doing in your life that makes you happy or that serves others, or where you are making history, possibly by participating in a polyamorous life, being as authentic, loving and brave as you can be – I commend you! I applaud you, and I am rooting for you and celebrating your unusual life. Go rock it like you know it needs to be done.
To finish off this post, here are some other highlights from my recent poly life:
- This past Friday was my “cinder block room” anniversary with my husband, as we got married by the justice of the peace on a Tuesday, followed by getting married in front of our family and friends by my good friend (who is gay) that I had asked to get Internet ordained for us eight years ago. Yes, this is the same friend that just got married in Provincetown that I mentioned in this post.
- This past Saturday, my metamour (meaning the woman that my boyfriend is currently dating) agreed to help me on a deadline with my first project for my new business. We worked side by side for several hours, with me instructing her what to do to help me. She did it with a smile and a good nature, we got to know each other better, and then she went out on an all day date with my boyfriend. And I was totally OK with it. Plus my boyfriend brought me back yummy treats from their excursion. MMMMMM!
- This past Sunday, my boyfriend gave me a leather purple and green rose (my two favorite colors, and ironically, they were my wedding colors as well). I will cherish it forever. I <3 leather and its ability to withstand the test of time. I hope that my love for him and his for me does as well.
- Monday night, my husband took me out for our anniversary (right after I just got CPR certified. Whoot! Go me!). We had a lovely Italian dinner, and exchanged gifts.
When I focus on the positive, I do live a charmed life. My family looks unusual – instead of children and a traditional household, I have a husband and a boyfriend who both love me and I them. And I am proud of what I have built. It wasn’t easy. But most things worth having never are. Much love to you all reading this post.
How about you? Any awesome updates in your polyamorous existence? Any comments on my maybe strange and funny stories? Do they seem odd to you? What rocks your world these days?
P.S. My Jetpack had mysteriously turned itself off. Hahaha. I’m publishing this now from the car! Whoot! Go working technology! I can do this virtual office thing!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)
Don’t feel bad Kitty, I’m still waiting for a functioning flying car.
That said, it sounds like you are finally finding your feet and may move closer to letting more people know who you love and your life. It may come slowly and surely, but I have no doubt when you do bare yourself to the ones you care.
Congrats on those wonderful men who show so much care and love; congratulations to the wonderful women who took the time to help you and get to know you well. How this could have gone wrong if jealousy, shame, and bickering were part of the mix.
Haha, thanks for much for contributing here. A flying car, ala Chittychittybangbang would rock! I concur. Thanks for the vote of confidence on my “coming out” journey. It has been a process that I have been involved with for several years now. Amazing how long it can take.
I appreciate your kind words and congratulations on the wonderful polyamorous men and women in my life. There have been moments in my poly life of jealousy, shame and bickering. We are all human, right? But we got through it. And we do our best to have positive emotions versus negative, but negativity and difficult feelings still happen. It’s what we do with them that counts in my book.
Lovely and Inspiring and I love this blog!~ You are living spirit, you are authentic and I am loving it so much! Bless you and your partners. LOVE divine. Colleen
Thank you so much for your kind words. It warms my heart to hear that you love this blog. It helps me keep going and feel like I’m doing something rewarding, which really makes me happy. Yes, indeed, I am doing my best to live authentically in my unusual life. And I need all of the blessings that I can get, thank you!
On the special day (although late 🙁 )
best wishes go to you
that this wonderful love you share
lasts your lifetime through
Happy anniversary to you
Thank you so much for your lovely sentiment! I will do my damnedest to make it so. I love love!