Cheers Sexy People!
I have MUCH to tell you! It has been an exciting, busy and fun-filled couple of weeks. I am writing you from Provincetown, MA where I attended and participated in my first gay wedding. And wow, what a magical, fun and thought-provoking weekend it was. The wedding was for a friend of mine that I have had for over 25 years. He “came out” to me as gay over a decade ago (I had already suspected anyway). I of course, was very accepting and happy for him. I felt close to him at the time that he was comfortable enough to confide in me his sexual orientation and true identity once he had figured it out for himself (he was in his mid-thirties at the time). A little over a year ago, he finally met his true love, and they married quietly at their residence last fall after their county had legalized gay marriage. This weekend was the official celebration of their marriage in Provincetown, MA – a city which is known not only for its tolerance, but true acceptance of homosexual relationships. Everywhere you look, there are men holding hands, as well as women openly cuddling together – complete with T-shirts proudly displayed that say things like “I Love My Two Dads” etc. It’s wonderful to see such open arms to the gay community, in contrast to the hatred often seen in other parts of the country (and world).
The culmination of the (monogamous) marriage celebration was the groom and the groom riding down the main drag of Provincetown’s Commercial Street, in broad daylight on a gorgeous day, riding bikes side by side strewn with very loud tin cans, and a “Just Married” sign tying the two bikes together. It was such a wonderful spectacle to see, that I felt so privileged to witness! My friend asked us all to make a “fuss” over them and take lots of pictures as they proudly announced their marriage to this wonderful, accepting, quaint Cape Cod town. It is hard to describe the feelings of running alongside them, laughing and cheering for them, as the passerbys on the street, smiled, applauded and yelled “Congratulations!” to the happy, joyous couple. The fact that they can do this today and openly celebrate their union so eloquently demonstrates how far we have come as a nation and a population, accepting different kinds of relationships… as long as they are monogamous… hmmmmm…
I tried to push my feelings temporarily aside so that I could truly be exuberantly happy for one of my best friends, and his new groom. But it is hard to forget that only two days earlier, I had celebrated my four year anniversary with my boyfriend behind closed doors. I uploaded pictures of the gorgeous flowers that he gave me for our anniversary to Facebook, not stating who gave them to me, or honoring my relationship with my boyfriend openly to the public. Many people who I am close to have no idea that I adore and love this man, just as I do my husband. I have not “come out” to my newly married, gay friend as polyamorous for a number of reasons (though I plan to soon). Why? Partly because I am not certain how he will take it, since it has taken him his entire life to find monogamous love in his own alternative relationship. How will he feel, and will he be truly accepting of ME and my relationship with both my husband and my boyfriend simultaneously. And when will the world at large allow me to openly proclaim my love for my boyfriend and my husband, cheering down the street that I love TWO men? How far away is that day? I have no idea, but this blog is here to help in my own little way to carve the path out for that to happen. I hope that sometime in my lifetime, I don’t feel the need to write this blog anonymously, and I too can proclaim my love out loud and proud for everyone to not only see, but to cheer, as they cheered for the happy gay couple in the streets of Provincetown. And what a wonderful day that will be…
Last night, for some levity and to truly immerse ourselves in the joyousness that is P’Town, we all went to see Snow White and the Seven Bottoms. It was absolutely HILARIOUS, irreverent and excellent fun. I highly recommend seeing it if you have the chance. It is officially going to New York City, and will be there until about October 26th (maybe they will extend it!). It has gorgeous costumes, gay sex, heterosexual sex, puppets, wonderful tunes, slapstick comedy and every other wonderful thing that you would want to see if you want to be entertained and have an open mind. At several points, I was laughing so hard, I nearly fell out of my seat. They also did a fantastic job of ad-libbing when it was needed. Don’t walk, run to the theatre if you can, and see this play that once again celebrates all kinds of sex, as well as alternative relationships and adult humor.
For some more levity, please enjoy this comedy skit that one of the guests at this weekend’s wedding told us about. I identified with it at this gorgeous, well thought-out wedding with amazing food and awesome entertainment (including me, as I sang three songs for the happy couple with my sister, which was an absolute pleasure):
How about you? Have you attended a gay marriage celebration as of yet? What are your thoughts on if and when polyamorous relationships should be recognized and how? Do you feel “in the closet” about your “extra” relationships? Please share!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too)
(P.S. the photo here was taken by us last night of the sunset we were fortunate enough to witness – one of the best I have ever seen).
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