Cheers Sexy People!
Why is the divorce rate so incredibly high? (roughly 50% of married couples in America end in divorce as per www.divorcerate.org)
Is monogamy necessary for a healthy relationship in today’s society… or is honesty, to your partner and to yourself possibly just as healthy?
Why does infidelity cause so much pain, heartache and grief, and why is it so rampant?
What is it about this conflict between our instincts and morals? Can we be ethical and still enjoy sexual pleasure or emotional fulfillment with more than one?
Recently, the trailer for the new upcoming documentary Why Knot was brought to my attention thanks to the wonders of our poly community (Daamini Shrivastav, part of the film’s team, reached out to me via social media and this blog). I am very excited for this film to be made and released, so I wanted to share more about it with you here. Why Knot, a film made by director Dhruv Dhawan and his team is currently in production and explores the themes of marriage, monogamy and infidelity. While society teaches us that sexual fidelity is a basic element of a sound marriage, this film explores the purpose of monogamy on a physical, biological and emotional level. We live in a world where almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce partly due to infidelity, and the pain, suffering and grief that ensues upon discovery. Clearly, there needs to be some sort of discussion about the purpose and benefit of monogamy and why so many of us cheat on those we claim to honor and love. This film hopes to open the door to the conversation.
The director hopes to break the silence on monogamy and foster communication within relationships, so that partners aren’t left hurt and broken at the hands of infidelity and betrayal. The filmmaker explains, “this documentary is a journey through the intellectual and emotional landscape of monogamy, questioning what it means to be human and to confront this conflict between our instincts and morals.” His vision is… ” to empower relationships and to encourage communication within, with the hope that one day infidelity and the containment of our desires may be a remnant of human history.” The film features leading figures in science and literature on both sides of the argument. Some of the prominent names interviewed in the film include Dr. Christopher Ryan, author of the controversial book Sex At Dawn and Dossie Eaton, co-author of The Ethical Slut to name a few.
Their objective is not to advocate for or against monogamy, but to break the silence and provoke thought on an issue which affects so many relationships and families today.
Watch the trailer here:
Meet the director yourself if you wish in his thank you video:
I am happy to report that the film garnered alot of support and attention thus far, and through crowdfunding, they surpassed their financial goals and can now film / interview men and women in the Amazon for the sake of the film. They have researched many polyamorous individuals and communities to take into account their insights and opinions as well.
I applaud their time, effort and perseverance in making such a film that I’m sure will be quite controversial, but that’s partly the point… to get a larger conversation going. What are your thoughts, readers? Any interest in seeing this film be made? Do you think it will help society at large?
Wishing you peace, love and happiness
(and thrilling, fun sex too)