Rethinking Infidelity: a talk for anyone who has ever loved

Cheers Sexy People! Recently a member of our awesome Loving Without Boundaries community shared with me this incredible TedTalk by Esther Perel – a relationship therapist – that answers very eloquently the question “Why do happy people cheat?” Wow. It is incredible. Totally worth the 21 minutes that it requires to watch it in full. I will…

Bullshit Alert: “Polyamory” is NOT a cover for Sex Addiction and other issues

Cheers Sexy People! I am writing you on the other side of a devastating, horrific breakup of both one of my relationships and my poly family as I had come to know it. Just weeks shy of celebrating our fifth anniversary, my boyfriend and I have broken up and he has moved out of our…

I Forgave Him – But Now What? (Damage Control After Infidelity)

Cheers Sexy People! I felt a massive weight had been lifted off of my shoulders after I recently truly forgave my boyfriend for his indiscretions that I talked about in this post. We had a really powerful conversation – not only about forgiveness, but ways in which I wanted to take ownership of being a great, attentive…

Broken Trust – Can You Survive An Affair?

Cheers Sexy People! Soooo I’m ready to talk about something here on my ethical non-monogamy blog. As you may have guessed from recent posts… I got cheated on. Yes, that’s right – after I’ve been writing this blog for over two years now, digging deeper into my commitment to polyamory, trust, integrity, honesty, transparency, blah,…

Adventures At My First Poly Conference

Cheers Sexy People! I am writing you from the “other side” of giving my first presentation at my first polyamorous conference. What a ride that was! WOW! SOOO glad that I did it! There were moments full of fear where I thought, “What am I, crazy? Who gives me the right to speak publicly about…

Why Do We Cheat?

Cheers Sexy People! I have been hard at work preparing my presentation for The 4th International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy. Ironically, I am the first speaker Saturday morning, February 14th. Yup, that’s right! Valentine’s Day! How hilarious is that?! I’m going to go up there and speak publicly about my polycule and…

Deadly Possession and Shattering Innocence

Cheers Sexy People, I’m writing this post with a heavy heart. While I was having a “date night” with my boyfriend last night, frolicking all over our local area enjoying the holidays, and then we were getting ready to settle in for the evening for a fun, sexy night at home, I got confirmation that…