Live-In Trial Run Experiment Week Update – “V” Poly Configuration

Cheers Sexy People! In my last post, I mentioned that within my own polycule, we had a trial run week of my boyfriend living with my husband and I full-time as practice for the potential real thing. A member of the Loving Without Boundaries community was kind enough to reach out and ask if I would elaborate…

Relationship Anarchy, Co-Dependency and Loving

Cheers Sexy People! My last post about forgiveness and moving forward after infidelity got some lively conversations going, both here in the comments section and in Facebook forums as well. I received the following comment from a Facebook friend: You talk a lot about trust – the question is, trust that your partner will do what? Do what s/he wants…

Mastering The 5 Love Languages

Cheers Sexy People, Have you ever been speaking to a loved one and just felt like you weren’t on the same page? Does it frustrate you? Did it not used to be like that? Do you sometimes feel super connected with someone sometimes, but other times not at all? Is that confusing to you? After…

Why Do Polyamorous People Get Married?

Cheers Sexy People! I am a proud, polyamorous woman, but I have several times been asked: Why be married if you are in several relationships, possible acting as a free agent anyway? What’s the point of the marriage? Why bother? The first time I was asked this, I admit I bristled and wanted to get…

Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I contemplated how rules, boundaries and negotiations work in polyamorous relationships, and pondered how we find common ground and figure out how to better understand each other while still honoring our own needs and desires at the same time. Once again, this can be challenging in a monogamous relationship, but…

Special VD Post: What Does An Open Marriage LOOK Like?

Cheers Sexy People, I am sometimes asked by friends in real life or cyber acquaintances: How does your open marriage work? Or recently, my good friend (who knows about my polyamorous household / situation) asked: So how does Valentine’s Day work in your world? Will we see a “VD” special (post) marking the occasion? Sure,…

The Practice of Jealousy Management

Cheers Sexy People! Let’s face it: It’s impossible to talk about polyamory / ethical non-monogamy without the topic of jealousy coming up. It’s one of the first questions I got asked by my friends when I first “came out” to them. “But don’t you get jealous?” Why yes, yes I do. Some days it might…

Walking Out Of The Darkness

Cheers Sexy People! This past Saturday nite, I went to the Out Of The Darkness Walk (sponsored by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention) in support of several of my friends who were walking in memory of those that they had lost through suicide. I was deeply moved by the experience. There were over 2,000…