Holy Shit – I’m an EMPATH! … How Polyamory and Grief Can Play in the Same Sandbox

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I wrote about how I was devastated and deeply saddened by losing a dear friend, colleague and mentor in a tragic accident while he was about to reach the summit of the tallest mountain in Africa – an achievement he always wanted. It just completely broke my heart to see this incredible…

Why Do We Cheat?

Cheers Sexy People! I have been hard at work preparing my presentation for The 4th International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy. Ironically, I am the first speaker Saturday morning, February 14th. Yup, that’s right! Valentine’s Day! How hilarious is that?! I’m going to go up there and speak publicly about my polycule and…

Mastering The 5 Love Languages

Cheers Sexy People, Have you ever been speaking to a loved one and just felt like you weren’t on the same page? Does it frustrate you? Did it not used to be like that? Do you sometimes feel super connected with someone sometimes, but other times not at all? Is that confusing to you? After…

We Said “I Love You” – Now What?

Cheers Sexy People, Recently, a reader whom I’ve spoken to in the past asked for some advice. I thought I would share her situation here, my response, and put it out here on my blog in case anyone else has any wise words of advice from the polyamory trenches. Situation: She (whom I’ll refer to…

Featured Again on “Threesomes and Variations”

I am honored that last week’s blog post, Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values was recently highlighted again as a featured article on the informative and interesting blog Threesomes and Variations. This article initiated more great conversations and shared insights on the subject of navigating boundaries and negotiations in polyamorous relationships (or any relationship for…

Negotiations and Finding Your Core Values

Cheers Sexy People! Last week, I contemplated how rules, boundaries and negotiations work in polyamorous relationships, and pondered how we find common ground and figure out how to better understand each other while still honoring our own needs and desires at the same time. Once again, this can be challenging in a monogamous relationship, but…

Featured Article on “Threesomes and Variations”

I am honored that last week’s blog post, Polyamory Without Rules = Chaos? was recently highlighted as a featured article on the informative and interesting blog Threesomes and Variations. This article initiated some great conversations and shared insights on the subject of navigating boundaries and negotiations in polyamorous relationships (or any relationship for that matter).…

Nonviolent Communication and a “Coming Out” Story

Cheers Sexy People! I have been waiting for the right moment to share what I have learned about the concept and teachings of Nonviolent Communication as described by Marshall Rosenberg. Given how my last two weeks have been, now is the time, my dear friends. This is really powerful stuff, and it’s another bit of…

Special VD Post: What Does An Open Marriage LOOK Like?

Cheers Sexy People, I am sometimes asked by friends in real life or cyber acquaintances: How does your open marriage work? Or recently, my good friend (who knows about my polyamorous household / situation) asked: So how does Valentine’s Day work in your world? Will we see a “VD” special (post) marking the occasion? Sure,…