Cheers Sexy People!
What an interesting and “off-format” podcast we have flying around in the air waves now! I recently got back from a several week West Coast America Tour, and that is when I was able to capture this remarkable interview in Los Angeles with my great friend, Wry from AWry Perspective. Wry and I met over five years ago in educational and alternative relationship support groups on FetLife, and have been great friends, colleagues and co-presenters ever since. When I found out I was going to be my boyfriend’s companion while he was traveling, I jumped at the chance to meet-up with Wry for fun, frolic, and co-creating podcast adventures in his hometown. We also enjoyed watching outstanding dancers at his (and now mine and my boyfriend’s) favorite strip club, Jumbo’s Clown Lounge, as well as amazing poetry performers at Da Poetry Lounge. Wry also was a sweetheart showing me the sights and we checked out Santa Monica pier on a gorgeous and foggy night. What a great host, Wry, thank you!!!
In this interview, we discuss not only the intersection of polyamory and kink. We also dive into BDSM (bottom, top, switch, sub-space), Domestic Discipline (using I Love Lucy as an example), One-Penis-Policy, the terms “cuckholding” and “cuckqueen”, as well as polyamory in main stream media. We have alot of laughs sharing stories and insights from Wry’s adventures as a speaker, performer, sex educator, as well as dissect jovially the term “man-splaining.” We also reminisce about Wry and I getting to know each other as friends, and when we began working together as educators, such as the first time we met in person at The International Conference On The Future of Nonmonogamy and Monogamy at Berkeley, California. Feel free to read about our event last fall at Hacienda Villa in New York last September, “Poly Talks and Wry Relationships: The Ethical Slut featuring Janet Hardy.”
Lastly I also mention my adventures at World Domination Summit which is created by Chris Guillebeau (author of “The $100 Startup”) and how I was quite proud of Chris mentioning the word “polyamory” on stage for the first time when he referenced my Loving Without Boundaries meet-up. Please be the first to know that I plan to host another meet-up this July (probably either July 15-16th) in Portland, Oregan when I attend WDS again. I will most likely be co-presenting with Coming Out Coach, Rick Clemons who was episode 4 on the podcast.
Here is Wry’s Bio from his website:
Having gained experience in multiple forms of non-monogamous relationship since 2002, Ryan “Wry” Mantione advocates being well-informed regarding options and alternatives to a hetero-normative, traditional love life, as well as maintaining dialogue with partners.
Encouraging audience participation, Wry has hosted regular discussion groups at: Stockroom, The Pleasure Chest, Syrup Loft, Wiznu Labs, and Emerald Terrace clubhouse.
“While I may practice a style of multi-relationship that is Open, Poly, D/s, Feminist, and Descriptive-Hierarchy, I take care to ensure everyone feels welcome. Over the years, I’ve explored various paths and it’s important to be inclusive of lifestyles that differ from my own. My workshop events are diverse with gender, people of color, and different points of view that are not limited to polyamory or any other specific form of relationship. Non-Monogamy is a broad and diverse umbrella, which includes mono-amory, hierarchy, Relationship Anarchy, swinging, DADT, egalitarian, casual sex, threesomes, MonoPoly, SoloPoly, communal, open, closed, polycules, triads, and more.” – Wry
Wry has appeared on Playboy-Vivid Radio on shows hosted by Mika Tan, SWING with former adult performer Siri , and Night Calls with Christy Canyon and Nikki Hunter. He was the first special guest on the Loving Without Boundaries Podcast hosted by Kitty Chambliss. Wry and his girlfriends appeared together on the infamous Dr. Susan Block Show, which may be the longest running sexual oriented show on the air.
As an active participant and Dominant in the BDSM fetish community, Wry is an exhibitionist and performer who has been featured on dozens of stages throughout Los Angeles, including: Sanctuary LAX, DomCon, Lair De Sade, Bordello of Decadence, Bondage Ball, Stockroom, Bar Sinister, Batcave, RUIN, Rapture, Noize Factory, Eros, Fetish Ball, Perish’s Studio 69 and various V Society events. He can occasionally be seen on stage in San Francisco, San Diego, and Las Vegas as well.
E!Television and HBO’s Secret Societies of Hollywood: Sanctum 2013
Throughout 2013, Wry was the head performer at LA’s most exclusive high end fetish and sex club Sanctum, holding the title of Magister. Wry’s creative input and consulting helped define the essence of Sanctum Club, which has gone on to be featured in GQ, Playboy Magazine, E! and HBO.
Wry is a co-promoter of Kinky Salon LA and hosts their fetish FUNgeon play area. In the words of Polly Superstar, the founder of Kinky Salon, the tenets are “community, creative expression, and sexual liberation, becoming part of a movement to change our culture’s unhealthy attitude towards sexuality. We are queer friendly, body positive, accessible and inclusive. Creativity is the focus of the events, and sex is just one way to express yourself at a Kinky Salon. We see the liberation of sexuality as a means of personal transformation, and personal transformation as a means of cultural transformation… making the world a better place, one pervert at a time.”
Wry hosts the BigFuckinParty annually in June. What began as his private birthday party has grown into a festival extravaganza of music, spectacle, fire, and absolutely absurd fun. The 6th annual BFP was held in June 2015 at a private location and attended by over 700 of his closest friends.
In addition to Non-Monogamy Consulting, Wry also offers private lessons in fetish techniques and BDSM. Wry is available for hire as a Dominant/Top for public and for private play.
Outside sex and relationship consulting, Wry is an event coordinator and marketer available for freelance and contract work. He is currently the Director of Marketing and New Media at Full Moon Features, an independent film company which has produced almost 300 films over the past 37 years.
Thank you Wry, for being so generous with your time, for meeting me in person in LA, and for sharing your thoughts and insights with us via the podcast interview! It was totally awesome and inspirational! Follow Wry’s work at nonmonogamyconsultant.com or on Twitter, Instagram, FetLife, YouTube and Facebook @AWryPerspective.
To hear the podcast, go to the Podcast link here and subscribe to the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and check out Episode 58 with Wry. Also, please help spread awareness of alternative lifestyles and create more tolerance for consensual non-monogamy in the world at large by Rating and Reviewing the Loving Without Boundaries podcast in iTunes. It only takes a few minutes.
If you would like to be interviewed either in written form or via audio on the podcast, please feel free to contact me and we will set something up. Thank you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)