Cheers Sexy People!
It is with great excitement that I share that I will be at this year’s Beyond the Love conference November 13–15 in Columbus, Ohio. I have been granted a “press pass” to come enjoy the event, take part in the activities, and then report on the experience afterwards here at Loving Without Boundaries. I am so psyched and honored, and can hardly wait! I have yet to book accommodations or transportation (gotta get on that), but I am so looking forward to really diving into this all-weekend, all-polyamory-all-the-time event. And also I am STOKED to possibly meet some of you in person. Meeting friends in person for the first time after much correspondence is a beautiful and lovely gift of living in the moment and truly embracing life. Being able to look someone in the eye, share smiles and laughs and give each other bear hugs just rocks, y’all! Let’s do this! Who is going? Please contact me if you are to let me know, so we can say hi to each other.
Here are some words from their website to describe the event:
Beyond The Love 2015 enters our third year, bringing the largest three day polyamory event in the region! Join us in central Ohio for a celebration!
From classes and workshops to social spaces and fun; we are creating a place that is both welcoming to people new to polyamory as well as has great value to those who want more than 101 classes.
Falling in love is the easy part. But what happens after that? Beyond The Love’s mission is to provide an opportunity for the polyamorous community to come together in an educational and social forum.
At Beyond the Love you will find a wealth of classes, workshops and mini events to learn tools, techniques and communication skills to enhance our poly relationships. We provide a safe environment for meeting with other like-minded people in a supportive and inclusive community.
We welcome all those living a poly lifestyle or considering doing so. We are passionate about recognizing poly as a relationship choice and sharing common experiences on our many different paths. We hope you’ll join us and share yours!
Awesome! I am pumped! Recently, I have been reflecting about my own polyamorous journey. I have been a self-proclaimed polyamorist for five years now. Prior to that (and before I knew what the word polyamory even was), I was dipping my toe into ethical non-monogamy and light swinging, truth be told. That was fun and interesting to me, but something was missing. And prior to that, I researched the topic, read many books and articles and spoke ad nauseum to my husband about ethical non-monogamy. Actually, we discussed the concept of open relationships when we were still dating and not even married yet. We jumped in this pool together and at the same time – which from what I understand is relatively unusual. Often times, one partner is encouraging another to consider coming along for this crazy, adventurous ride. So my journey has spanned over 7-8 years now.
But what I’ve also realized is as much as I am a humble teacher here at Loving Without Boundaries, I always have been and always will be a STUDENT. I am constantly learning, evolving, growing, experimenting and just soaking up as much information and experience as I possibly can. Then I of course share what I learn when I can with all of you as soon as I am able, which is so incredibly rewarding for me (and hopefully helpful to you as you traverse your own path). Especially now that a major relationship that spanned years is over, I am contemplating what the next stage of my polyamorous journey will look like. I am completely open to the excitement of what’s around the corner, and am thrilled to create new possibilities for myself and my future partner(s). The beauty of polyamory to me partly is the different and magical forms it can take. No two polycules are exactly the same or operate the same. The excitement partly is making it up as you go along, dodging and weaving and loving the experience as you go. That’s beautiful. And lovely. And opens such a wonderful road ahead for all of us.
As I embrace the possibility of new connections and new relationships, I am raising the bar – and it feels so so good. Looking back, I know I was settling for sub-par behavior and sub-par experiences. Why? Many reasons that may be for another post. But that is no more. As the quote here says, “You’re in a relationship to be happy, to smile, to laugh, and to make good memories. Not to be constantly upset, to feel hurt, and to cry.” There were many days where my last relationship was good to great – but looking back, there were sections of time of the relationship where I was not being told the whole truth – in fact it was not as ethical or honest as I thought from both sides. And it takes two to tango, my friends. That is not what I want and not what I will stand for. Also, there were simply too many days where I felt unsafe, unsure about what was really going on, and also not appreciated – it’s surprising to me just how much that stings in a rather subtle way. And when I found out I was lied to, I was downright hurt. Betrayal sucks, y’all. And it didn’t have to be that way. Yet the revelation of the betrayal and ending of that relationship is a gift to me. That door needed to close to open up my life to the wonder of other potential amazing, loving connections. And thankfully, partly with the strength and support of this incredible community, I was able to quickly and rather easily recover, reflect and move on. I have an even stronger purpose now with my mission here at LWB, and my own personal mission with the incredible connections and relationships that I believe will find their way into my heart and my life. And it feels so damn good.
Thus it is with love in my heart and a song in my head that I am attending this year’s Beyond The Love conference. Teach me, Obi Wan. I want to learn, grow and experience more and more. Life is a fantastic, awesome journey that we create each and every day together. What will you create today?
Please Note: I have migrated my Loving Without Boundaries website to a new hosting service partly to serve this community better as we move forward. The former polytalkbykitty.wordpress.com website will soon be taken down. Everything has been migrated and copied over here to lovingwithoutboundaries.com. Some comments came in during the transition that did not get copied over. I will attempt to bring them over here, but forgive me please if that is not seamless. Thank you for your patience during this website transition. It is not 100% complete yet but we are getting there. Any technical problems or questions, please direct them to my contact page. Thank you!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)