Cheers Sexy People!
I wanted to first thank everyone in this awesome community for not only the lively conversation that sprung up over the last blog post, but the helpful words that you offered to the troubled questioner – and indeed to ANYONE dealing with the type of doubts or confusion that we all feel from time to time. We doubt our relationships, we wonder how to deal with “the haters,” and on and on. I don’t know some days what we would all do without each other – both in communities such as this (our wonderful poly-friendly / poly-curious community) and each of our own respective local communities, families and friends.
The lovely woman from South Asia had this to say to all of us in response to reading the blog post:
Thank you for your insights. Thank you for your blog post. Please thank your readers who commented there. Their words are energy to me. It is hard for me to explain it to you, but those words give me strength. Since I’m [now] working, I’m dealing with different people. I just can’t ignore a person who has a crude view because I have a job to do. I hope someday I’ll be able to ignore the words they let out from their mouth. I also hope my relationships with my lovers will last this lifetime. Thank you. Wishing you and your readers a very happy and joyous life.
So again, rock on, people, for your collective wisdom! I learned alot as well reading and responding to all of your comments. For me recently, I’ve been thinking an awful lot lately about the words and difference between empathy and sympathy, partly because of all of the crazy ass stuff I have been through over the past six or so years. Going through my own trials and tribulations (which includes navigating my poly life, deciding who and when to “come out” to friends and family, etc.) has helped me want to become a better and more empathetic friend to my loved ones. I know how it feels when I feel ignored, not heard or misunderstood. It ain’t fun and does not make relationships better, it can often times make them worse. But when you DO feel heard or understood, WOW some serious bonding and connection can happen. Right? We all want that!
I found this AWESOME short video that describes via a cute cartoon the difference between empathy and sympathy. I plan to keep this blog post short so that you will hopefully click the link and watch the vid. Then please feel free to comment and add your thoughts about what you think about it and the lessons that it teaches. When have you had to deal with people who may have had good sympathetic intentions, but you were left feeling… not heard, or kinda crappy, but couldn’t put your finger on why?
The intro says:
What is the best way to ease someone’s pain and suffering? In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuine empathic connection if we are brave enough to really get in touch with our own fragilities.
I also have a brief announcement! Check this out!
I was invited to be a special guest on an Internet Radio Talk Show on Tuesday, February 24th, 8pm CST! Please feel free to listen in or to call in and speak with myself and anyone else on the panel there! I am very excited and grateful for the opportunity to participate.
Here is a link to the details!
Wishing you peace, love and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)