This week is a particularly difficult week for me. I lost my father to cancer over six years ago. Not only was Sunday Father’s Day, but his birthday is this week too. “They” say time heals all wounds. I say that’s bull shit. Time may heal SOME wounds, including physical ones of course, but the loss of a loved one to death, particularly someone you call family, is devastating. I’m not feeling very eloquent with my words this week, so I thought I would share a wonderful blog post that I found recently that talks about grief in a warm, honest way. Some of the comments are really heartfelt and insightful as well.
What does all this have to do with polyamory / non-monogamy you ask? Well, just like creating this blog was partly about letting others know they are not alone in their questions and concerns surrounding non-monogamy, it’s nice to know that we are not alone in grief as well. Building a community and some emotional support of any kind is truly a gift that we all can grab a hold of. It’s helpful to remember that!
Secondly, I spent all day Sunday with my husband as we visited first my family and then his parents. I kept it together and was quite positive most of the day. On the drive back, memories of my father and how much I miss him started to overwhelm me, and my husband was there to comfort me, as one would expect. But then he had to leave for a business trip. I spent a really excellent day yesterday with my boyfriend. All around great day. And my favorite part of the day? (besides when we were doubled over laughing at my ridiculous funny kittens…) It was when I started to uncontrollably cry thinking about my dad again after something triggered me, and he just held me for awhile and let me literally cry on his shoulder, no questions asked. Having more than one close intimate that I can just bare my soul to when I need to, and have loving support come back to me (and vice versa) just really fits into my life quite well. And we are all very glad that we have each other, especially in this busy world where one person can’t be available all the time.
I am very blessed to have such fantastic, loving people in my life. And I’m blessed for the great memories I have of the loved ones that have passed on as well. Go *hug* someone you love today, and really mean it! Life is short. Make *WOW* moments that matter!
Wishing you love, peace and happiness,
(and thrilling, fun sex too!)